Retreat - A place of refuge, seclusion, or privacy.
It's practically inevitable... at some point, life just seems to beat down on us. I've found it extremely helpful and healthy to retreat to a calm, quiet, secluded location and just take a little time to ‘veg out’. Man was not designed to live life at a nonstop pace of 100+ miles per hour. Many of us are destined for ‘burnout’ if we don't learn to slow down and occasionally retreat from the rigors of life. Vacations are great but let's be real,... most of the time, we rip and run even while on vacation. It's important that we do the small things that help us to preserve our sanity and good health. Today, take time out to plan an intimate retreat. Don’t fret; work, bills, stress, and fatigue will “catch you up on old times” when you return. Have a wonderful weekend. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Friday, September 29, 2006
Thursday, September 28, 2006
28 Sept - WOD
Sensation - A mental or physical feeling, esp. a state of excited feeling.
I feel pretty confident in assuming that at some point in our lives we have all experienced the sensations of being both uncomfortably hot and extremely cold. Some of us may have stubbed a toe or banged a "funny bone" and as a result experienced a painful sensation. In my opinion however, nothing compares to the 'tingling' sensation associated with love.
I sometimes reflect back to my very own 'spine tingling' encounter. Have you ever had a companion who sent tingles down your spine with an innocent touch of his/her hands? At the time, I had no idea exactly how rare that sensation would become. As I grow older, it becomes evident that as important as any of the various other qualities that I look for in a companion is the presence of that tingle.
If you've found a companion who gives you chills, butterflies, and/or makes you feel all giddy inside; good for you!!! Cherish every single moment of this sensation. Not every situation promises to be as fulfilling. Hey, is it just me or does today seem like a great day to get your 'tingle' on? Be blessed.
Corey R.
I feel pretty confident in assuming that at some point in our lives we have all experienced the sensations of being both uncomfortably hot and extremely cold. Some of us may have stubbed a toe or banged a "funny bone" and as a result experienced a painful sensation. In my opinion however, nothing compares to the 'tingling' sensation associated with love.
I sometimes reflect back to my very own 'spine tingling' encounter. Have you ever had a companion who sent tingles down your spine with an innocent touch of his/her hands? At the time, I had no idea exactly how rare that sensation would become. As I grow older, it becomes evident that as important as any of the various other qualities that I look for in a companion is the presence of that tingle.
If you've found a companion who gives you chills, butterflies, and/or makes you feel all giddy inside; good for you!!! Cherish every single moment of this sensation. Not every situation promises to be as fulfilling. Hey, is it just me or does today seem like a great day to get your 'tingle' on? Be blessed.
Corey R.
Wednesday, September 27, 2006
27 Sept -WOD
Manipulate - To influence or manage shrewdly or deviously: He manipulated public opinion in his favor.
Let's face it, at some point in our lives, many of us have either been a manipulator or have allowed others to manipulate us. People tend to have different perspectives about what constitutes the act of manipulation. My personal belief is whenever a person contrives an expected outcome well in advance of soliciting a service from another person, they are being manipulative.
Let's take for example the single woman who knows exactly which male companion to call when she's in the mood for a complimentary meal at her favorite restaurant. This woman has a plethora of male acquaintances yet she strategically chooses one friend in particular whenever she wants to be wined and dined. Nine times out of ten, she realizes that 'Guy X' is so enthused about spending time with her that he'll practically jump through hoops to accommodate her requests. Yup, you've guessed it... she is a manipulator.
Let's not overlook the twenty something year old man who still relies on his Momma to wash his dirty laundry. He fully understands that once the pile accumulates to a certain level, his mother will get tired of looking at the tower of clothes. He knows full well that eventually Momduke will wash, dry, and fold his laundry, on his behalf. He too is a manipulator.
The fact of the matter remains that we usually know which individual(s) we are capable of manipulating. If you're an accomplished manipulator, shame on you. On the flip side, if you fall into the 'jump through hoops guy' or 'laundry lady' category... WAKE UP!!! You're being played like a fiddle. That's right, I'm hatin'. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Let's face it, at some point in our lives, many of us have either been a manipulator or have allowed others to manipulate us. People tend to have different perspectives about what constitutes the act of manipulation. My personal belief is whenever a person contrives an expected outcome well in advance of soliciting a service from another person, they are being manipulative.
Let's take for example the single woman who knows exactly which male companion to call when she's in the mood for a complimentary meal at her favorite restaurant. This woman has a plethora of male acquaintances yet she strategically chooses one friend in particular whenever she wants to be wined and dined. Nine times out of ten, she realizes that 'Guy X' is so enthused about spending time with her that he'll practically jump through hoops to accommodate her requests. Yup, you've guessed it... she is a manipulator.
Let's not overlook the twenty something year old man who still relies on his Momma to wash his dirty laundry. He fully understands that once the pile accumulates to a certain level, his mother will get tired of looking at the tower of clothes. He knows full well that eventually Momduke will wash, dry, and fold his laundry, on his behalf. He too is a manipulator.
The fact of the matter remains that we usually know which individual(s) we are capable of manipulating. If you're an accomplished manipulator, shame on you. On the flip side, if you fall into the 'jump through hoops guy' or 'laundry lady' category... WAKE UP!!! You're being played like a fiddle. That's right, I'm hatin'. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Tuesday, September 26, 2006
26 Sept - WOD
Courteous - Having or showing good manners; polite.
Isn't it interesting that once we surpass the milestone of 30 years young, we somehow get automatically thrust into the category of 'Old School'? Funny thing is when I was in my early twenties; I thought I still had an eternity before I was considered an 'ole head'. Between you and me, I actually went thru a slight spell of mental anguish when I turned thirty. I felt like a tremendous underachiever because at that point, I still had not accomplished many of the goals I'd previously set for myself. Indeed thirty was a tough age to embrace.
Fast forward two years and the term "Old fashioned" doesn't strike me as half bad, nowadays. Think about it; most of us fall into the 25 and older category. Fortunately for us, several benefits happen to accompany that statistic. We were raised to appreciate real music (Luther, Anita, Gladys, and Patti). We were blessed to watch quality BLACK television programs (The Cosby Show, The Jeffersons, In Living Color, and Good Times). Most importantly though we understood the value of respect and courtesy as it applies to one another and especially our elders.
Rhetorical Question: Since the term 'old school' is the antonym for 'new jack' should we automatically accept the possibility that our children's values are destined to be the exact opposite of ours?
Courtesy begins at home!!! We can not expect teachers, counselors, or pastors to teach our children good manners. That is our God given responsibility as parents. The harsh reality is that you only have two choices today... 1) Teach your children the value of good manners and common courtesy or 2) Leave it to Bubba and/or Big Bertha (your child's future cell mate) to do it for you. Courtesy cost you nothing yet buys you so much. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Isn't it interesting that once we surpass the milestone of 30 years young, we somehow get automatically thrust into the category of 'Old School'? Funny thing is when I was in my early twenties; I thought I still had an eternity before I was considered an 'ole head'. Between you and me, I actually went thru a slight spell of mental anguish when I turned thirty. I felt like a tremendous underachiever because at that point, I still had not accomplished many of the goals I'd previously set for myself. Indeed thirty was a tough age to embrace.
Fast forward two years and the term "Old fashioned" doesn't strike me as half bad, nowadays. Think about it; most of us fall into the 25 and older category. Fortunately for us, several benefits happen to accompany that statistic. We were raised to appreciate real music (Luther, Anita, Gladys, and Patti). We were blessed to watch quality BLACK television programs (The Cosby Show, The Jeffersons, In Living Color, and Good Times). Most importantly though we understood the value of respect and courtesy as it applies to one another and especially our elders.
Rhetorical Question: Since the term 'old school' is the antonym for 'new jack' should we automatically accept the possibility that our children's values are destined to be the exact opposite of ours?
Courtesy begins at home!!! We can not expect teachers, counselors, or pastors to teach our children good manners. That is our God given responsibility as parents. The harsh reality is that you only have two choices today... 1) Teach your children the value of good manners and common courtesy or 2) Leave it to Bubba and/or Big Bertha (your child's future cell mate) to do it for you. Courtesy cost you nothing yet buys you so much. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Monday, September 25, 2006
25 Sept - WOD
Busy - Actively and attentively engaged in work or a pastime: busy with his work.
If any of you are as busy at work as I am today, you probably don't have time to read today's WOD. Luckily for y'all, I'm keeping this one short and sweet. Sometimes we get beside ourselves because we're so busy. For those of you who have ever heard me complain about my hectic work schedule, let me assure you I would much rather be a little busy than to have excess idle time on my hands. Most of the times when an individual is busy, he/she is actually being productive. So today, if you're super busy; keep busy and if you're not busy; well…get busy. But whatever you do…if you've got nosey colleagues, you damn sure better look busy. Be blessed.
Corey R.
If any of you are as busy at work as I am today, you probably don't have time to read today's WOD. Luckily for y'all, I'm keeping this one short and sweet. Sometimes we get beside ourselves because we're so busy. For those of you who have ever heard me complain about my hectic work schedule, let me assure you I would much rather be a little busy than to have excess idle time on my hands. Most of the times when an individual is busy, he/she is actually being productive. So today, if you're super busy; keep busy and if you're not busy; well…get busy. But whatever you do…if you've got nosey colleagues, you damn sure better look busy. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Friday, September 22, 2006
22 Sept - WOD
Fair -
1) Free from bias, dishonesty, or injustice: a fair decision; a fair judge.
2) Legitimately sought, pursued, done, given, etc.; proper under the rules: a fair fight.
In an ideal world, everyone would be treated equally. How many times have you felt that life just isn't fair? Chances are, if you were born into this world as a member of a minority race or gender, you fully understand that the playing field is not level for 'your kind'. Now please don't get this misconstrued; I'm not whining or asking for handouts. I fully believe that as a people, we are capable of overcoming insurmountable odds. Genetically, it’s just the way we were constructed. However, in my opinion, it would be refreshing if there was one set of governing rules which applied to everyone. I think we can all agree that the rules which apply to Brett are not the same rules that apply to Hakim and Tariq.
I embrace the idea that someday minorities will be presented with the same choices, opportunities, and advantages as our majority counterparts. Only then (when these commodities are proportionately dispersed) will we truly be able to separate the lazy and shiftless individuals from those of us who strive to achieve in every field of human endeavor. Quite frankly, folk who lack motivation, drive, or desire... need to shut up about life not being fair, anyway. I mean c'mon y’all... fair is fair. Have a productive weekend. Be blessed.
Corey R.
1) Free from bias, dishonesty, or injustice: a fair decision; a fair judge.
2) Legitimately sought, pursued, done, given, etc.; proper under the rules: a fair fight.
In an ideal world, everyone would be treated equally. How many times have you felt that life just isn't fair? Chances are, if you were born into this world as a member of a minority race or gender, you fully understand that the playing field is not level for 'your kind'. Now please don't get this misconstrued; I'm not whining or asking for handouts. I fully believe that as a people, we are capable of overcoming insurmountable odds. Genetically, it’s just the way we were constructed. However, in my opinion, it would be refreshing if there was one set of governing rules which applied to everyone. I think we can all agree that the rules which apply to Brett are not the same rules that apply to Hakim and Tariq.
I embrace the idea that someday minorities will be presented with the same choices, opportunities, and advantages as our majority counterparts. Only then (when these commodities are proportionately dispersed) will we truly be able to separate the lazy and shiftless individuals from those of us who strive to achieve in every field of human endeavor. Quite frankly, folk who lack motivation, drive, or desire... need to shut up about life not being fair, anyway. I mean c'mon y’all... fair is fair. Have a productive weekend. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Thursday, September 21, 2006
21 Sept - WOD
Faithful -
1) True to one's word, promises, vows, etc.
2) Reliable, trusted, or believed.
"Faith is the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen." I'm sure some of you realized more than an hour ago that today's WOD had not yet been posted. While some of you may have been a little nervous, I'm sure the majority of you were confident that your WOD was forthcoming.
On hectic days like today, I revert back to the silent vow that I made to try to provide a daily mental vitamin for my loved ones. Trust me, some days that vow is the lone factor that motivates me to formulate my thoughts. For those of you who trust that I'll maintain that vow (to the best of my ability), I thank God for you all. Likewise, today I'd like to encourage each of you to work harder at keeping of your word. The world could certainly use a few more reliable folk. Be blessed.
Corey R.
1) True to one's word, promises, vows, etc.
2) Reliable, trusted, or believed.
"Faith is the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen." I'm sure some of you realized more than an hour ago that today's WOD had not yet been posted. While some of you may have been a little nervous, I'm sure the majority of you were confident that your WOD was forthcoming.
On hectic days like today, I revert back to the silent vow that I made to try to provide a daily mental vitamin for my loved ones. Trust me, some days that vow is the lone factor that motivates me to formulate my thoughts. For those of you who trust that I'll maintain that vow (to the best of my ability), I thank God for you all. Likewise, today I'd like to encourage each of you to work harder at keeping of your word. The world could certainly use a few more reliable folk. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Wednesday, September 20, 2006
20 Sept - WOD
Evolve - to come forth gradually into being; develop; undergo evolution: The whole idea evolved from a casual remark.
Life is geared to grow each of us through a series of events, experiences, and lessons. Some of life's teachings are bound to be painful while others are rather pleasant. The beauty of being enrolled in 'LIFE University' is that no matter what the circumstance that led to your lesson(s)... wisdom is always a byproduct. Smart folk use life's lessons to evolve into wiser, stronger, better prepared individuals. It would be a travesty to continue to repeat the same mistakes over and over in life. Every lesson whether negative or positive is intended to help us mature into better people.
Battered hearts and broken bones both heal in due time. In most cases, it is the lesson that we take from a previous encounter that assists us to steer clear of similarly dangerous territory. Far too often, we fail to take time to assess the personal growth that transpires between these little lessons. Perhaps we should spend less time reflecting on the harsh lessons of life and more time focusing on the growth that they afford us. I think we'd be surprised to find that we're constantly evolving into fine young men and women. Today, I'd like to remind you to be thankful for every lesson that life has afforded you. Even if currently you have not evolved into the person you would like to become, I can almost guarantee that you're not the person you used to be either. We can all contribute at least a small portion of our evolution to Life's lessons. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Life is geared to grow each of us through a series of events, experiences, and lessons. Some of life's teachings are bound to be painful while others are rather pleasant. The beauty of being enrolled in 'LIFE University' is that no matter what the circumstance that led to your lesson(s)... wisdom is always a byproduct. Smart folk use life's lessons to evolve into wiser, stronger, better prepared individuals. It would be a travesty to continue to repeat the same mistakes over and over in life. Every lesson whether negative or positive is intended to help us mature into better people.
Battered hearts and broken bones both heal in due time. In most cases, it is the lesson that we take from a previous encounter that assists us to steer clear of similarly dangerous territory. Far too often, we fail to take time to assess the personal growth that transpires between these little lessons. Perhaps we should spend less time reflecting on the harsh lessons of life and more time focusing on the growth that they afford us. I think we'd be surprised to find that we're constantly evolving into fine young men and women. Today, I'd like to remind you to be thankful for every lesson that life has afforded you. Even if currently you have not evolved into the person you would like to become, I can almost guarantee that you're not the person you used to be either. We can all contribute at least a small portion of our evolution to Life's lessons. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Tuesday, September 19, 2006
19 Sept - WOD
Service -
1) an act of helpful activity; help; aid: to do someone a service.
2) ready to be of help or use to someone; at one's disposal:
Today, I take my hat off in recognition and appreciation for my loved ones in the education, medical, and social services professions. Not everyone has the patience, dedication, or nurturing spirit that you possess. You work tirelessly to provide services which benefit your fellow man. You are indeed a commodity in today's self-centered society. It's nice to know there are still people who take the time to make a positive impact in the lives others. If nobody else tells you today, I appreciate you. Be blessed.
Corey R.
1) an act of helpful activity; help; aid: to do someone a service.
2) ready to be of help or use to someone; at one's disposal:
Today, I take my hat off in recognition and appreciation for my loved ones in the education, medical, and social services professions. Not everyone has the patience, dedication, or nurturing spirit that you possess. You work tirelessly to provide services which benefit your fellow man. You are indeed a commodity in today's self-centered society. It's nice to know there are still people who take the time to make a positive impact in the lives others. If nobody else tells you today, I appreciate you. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Friday, September 15, 2006
18 Sept - WOD
Black Man
So what if I am a black man? ...
Does that make me incapable of providing for my offspring?
Does that mean I'm predestined to have countless sexual encounters that amount to absolutely nothing?
Am I condemned to a prison sentence, an early death, or a nasty drug addiction?
And who says you can detect an unintelligent black man by his non-standard diction?
...trust me, that's all fiction
So what if I am a black man? ...
Should I be penalized for my uncanny ability to do more with far less?
Are you angry with my ancestors for empowering me with an iron will to never settle for second best?
So tell me then ...what is it about the black man that makes you so uneasy?
I'll run through a list of items; feel free at any time to cease me
Hmmm, let's see now; where should I begin?
Perhaps it's the variation of hue in our magnificent brown skin?
Ranging from Dark Chocolate to Caramel to Cinnamon to High Yellow and all shades in between
Perfectly smooth Nubian skin; its like nothing you've ever seen
A strong backed, full lipped, sharp minded, broad shouldered, bald headed brotha
Faster, more powerful, more athletic, and quite the insatiable lover
So what if I am a black man? ...
Do I have to stand on the corner and sling rocks with my baggy jeans hangin' low?
If that's truly the case then you probably also expect me to father a child by every female I know.
Heck no!!!
So what if I'm a black man who chooses to use his mind
...who has decided to advance past all the stereotypes once thought to leave him behind?
What if I'm a black man who desires to do a whole lot better
... who desires a nuclear family that sits down each night and eats dinner together?
So what if I'm the black man who was intended to beat the odds
...who went on to do great things because despite his situation he always knew he was a child of God?
So what if I am what they call me?
Does that make me who they say that I am? {not a chance}
Sistah... respect and adore me; my love for you is unwavering
... Say hello to YOUR new and improved BLACK MAN
15 Sept - WOD
Stress - physical, mental, or emotional strain or tension: Worry over his job and his wife's health put him under a great stress.
Are you very easily stressed? Perhaps you have a lower than normal stress threshold. We all know at least one person who stresses over even the slightest of issues. We have to be mindful who we share our trials and tribulations with because some folk internalize our problems and ultimately they stress our situation more than we do. On the flip side, there are those of us who allow the problems of others to spill over into our laps. Life is stressful enough to begin with. We don't have the bandwidth to inherit stress from all of our loved ones. Stress can cause health issues, anxiety, restlessness, nausea, or death. Once put into proper perspective, we find that we usually stress over things that are not worthy of our energy in the first place.
Most likely... overdue bills, insufficient finances, dysfunctional relationships, and health concerns are the catalysts for the majority of our stress. Well guess what…arrangements with a bill collector can be made in advance with a simple telephone call. Finances can be supplemented by picking up some over-time hours or maybe even a part-time job in your spare time. Dysfunctional relationships can be resolved through counseling. If counseling doesn’t help, then there’s always permanent separation. Health concerns can be addressed through healthier eating, a proper exercise regimen, and frequent visits to see a physician. Everything else, for the most part is small stuff. You don't need me to tell you not to sweat the small stuff. You already know that, right? Today, I stress to you, take a chill pill. Have a wonderful weekend. Be Blessed.
Corey R.
Are you very easily stressed? Perhaps you have a lower than normal stress threshold. We all know at least one person who stresses over even the slightest of issues. We have to be mindful who we share our trials and tribulations with because some folk internalize our problems and ultimately they stress our situation more than we do. On the flip side, there are those of us who allow the problems of others to spill over into our laps. Life is stressful enough to begin with. We don't have the bandwidth to inherit stress from all of our loved ones. Stress can cause health issues, anxiety, restlessness, nausea, or death. Once put into proper perspective, we find that we usually stress over things that are not worthy of our energy in the first place.
Most likely... overdue bills, insufficient finances, dysfunctional relationships, and health concerns are the catalysts for the majority of our stress. Well guess what…arrangements with a bill collector can be made in advance with a simple telephone call. Finances can be supplemented by picking up some over-time hours or maybe even a part-time job in your spare time. Dysfunctional relationships can be resolved through counseling. If counseling doesn’t help, then there’s always permanent separation. Health concerns can be addressed through healthier eating, a proper exercise regimen, and frequent visits to see a physician. Everything else, for the most part is small stuff. You don't need me to tell you not to sweat the small stuff. You already know that, right? Today, I stress to you, take a chill pill. Have a wonderful weekend. Be Blessed.
Corey R.
Thursday, September 14, 2006
14 Sept - WOD
Invisible Tears
Was raised fatherless but I grew up with five uncles though
‘Lil C dry your eyes; you're acting like a real punk yo'
See from an early age, I was encouraged to fight back my tears
How come nobody ever mentioned it would grow worse throughout the years?
Shredded relationships are the result of emotions run off track
But my name ain’t Ralph Tresvant so to me sensitivity was straight up wack
Damaged goods now cuz for so long I've been emotionally disconnected
Praying to God on a regular basis that He’ll give me the strength to correct it.
Men aren't supposed to cry it's a sign of weakness, or at least that's what I was told
Ashamed that I can count on one hand the times I've cried since I was like 16 years old
Now that's half my life and time is one thing that we can never recreate
Feeling relieved though at the fact that through my son, I can finaly set the record straight.
I'll tell him 'Son, its perfectly okay to display your true feelings'
'Even if that means from time to time you need to cry to get through your dealings'
'Shedding tears doesn't make a man soft, weak, or gay'
Yup, when it's time to have "the talk", those are the words he'll hear Daddy say.
As for me, I'm scared to death of the day when I can no longer hold back my cry
Worried that my tears will run for days or at least until my soul is completely dry
That's 16 years worth of backed up tears; so I’m a little overdue
Don't sleep! Chances are there's a man in your life who could stand a good cry too.
Corey R.
Was raised fatherless but I grew up with five uncles though
‘Lil C dry your eyes; you're acting like a real punk yo'
See from an early age, I was encouraged to fight back my tears
How come nobody ever mentioned it would grow worse throughout the years?
Shredded relationships are the result of emotions run off track
But my name ain’t Ralph Tresvant so to me sensitivity was straight up wack
Damaged goods now cuz for so long I've been emotionally disconnected
Praying to God on a regular basis that He’ll give me the strength to correct it.
Men aren't supposed to cry it's a sign of weakness, or at least that's what I was told
Ashamed that I can count on one hand the times I've cried since I was like 16 years old
Now that's half my life and time is one thing that we can never recreate
Feeling relieved though at the fact that through my son, I can finaly set the record straight.
I'll tell him 'Son, its perfectly okay to display your true feelings'
'Even if that means from time to time you need to cry to get through your dealings'
'Shedding tears doesn't make a man soft, weak, or gay'
Yup, when it's time to have "the talk", those are the words he'll hear Daddy say.
As for me, I'm scared to death of the day when I can no longer hold back my cry
Worried that my tears will run for days or at least until my soul is completely dry
That's 16 years worth of backed up tears; so I’m a little overdue
Don't sleep! Chances are there's a man in your life who could stand a good cry too.
Corey R.
Wednesday, September 13, 2006
13 Sept - WOD
Excuses - explanations offered as reasons for being excused; pleas offered in extenuation of faults or for release from an obligation, promise, etc.: His excuse for being late was unacceptable.
This is just my personal opinion but I believe that every human being should undergo some form of mental disciplinary training in their adolescent years. Whether that training come in the form of a military like basic training or in the form of pledging a sorority or fraternity in college; I firmly believe that the experience will prove beneficial. The mental challenges often associated with these strict training regimens have proven invaluable in the lives of many. My pledge process in college taught me that I was capable of accomplishing far more than I ever gave myself credit for. It also taught me that "excuses are tools of incompetence used to build monuments of nothingness and those who use them usually amount to nothing at all".
Some of us have gotten so good at making excuses that we've literally created personal crutches for ourselves. Have you ever thought about the amount of energy required to conjure up an excuse? First, we conceive an idea. Then, we visualize how to master a certain goal, task, or challenge. Next, we consider all the possibilities that exist for failure. Eventually, we manage to convince ourselves that we will never be able to actually accomplish the feat. Finally, we invoke an excuse to bail us out and prevent us the trouble of ever trying in the first place. That's why it's often so easy to sell others on our excuses. We've already expended so much effort convincing ourselves that it's a cinch to get our friends to buy into our excuses. Here is a small piece of advice for you... "nothing beats a failure but a try". Ease up on all the excuses. The biggest difference between those who succeed in life and those who don't is usually the fact that successful folk don't buy into excuses. Class is dismissed; you're excused. Be blessed.
Corey R.
This is just my personal opinion but I believe that every human being should undergo some form of mental disciplinary training in their adolescent years. Whether that training come in the form of a military like basic training or in the form of pledging a sorority or fraternity in college; I firmly believe that the experience will prove beneficial. The mental challenges often associated with these strict training regimens have proven invaluable in the lives of many. My pledge process in college taught me that I was capable of accomplishing far more than I ever gave myself credit for. It also taught me that "excuses are tools of incompetence used to build monuments of nothingness and those who use them usually amount to nothing at all".
Some of us have gotten so good at making excuses that we've literally created personal crutches for ourselves. Have you ever thought about the amount of energy required to conjure up an excuse? First, we conceive an idea. Then, we visualize how to master a certain goal, task, or challenge. Next, we consider all the possibilities that exist for failure. Eventually, we manage to convince ourselves that we will never be able to actually accomplish the feat. Finally, we invoke an excuse to bail us out and prevent us the trouble of ever trying in the first place. That's why it's often so easy to sell others on our excuses. We've already expended so much effort convincing ourselves that it's a cinch to get our friends to buy into our excuses. Here is a small piece of advice for you... "nothing beats a failure but a try". Ease up on all the excuses. The biggest difference between those who succeed in life and those who don't is usually the fact that successful folk don't buy into excuses. Class is dismissed; you're excused. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Tuesday, September 12, 2006
12 Sept - WOD
Appetite - a desire to satisfy a particular need or craving.
Are you being properly fed? Every individual is unique. However, one thing we all share in common is the fact that we each possess a craving of some sort. Some very common cravings include $ex, drugs, alcohol, food, and of course the "all mighty dollar". The appetite is capable of sending us through all sorts of extremes on a quest to fulfill our cravings. A certain level of discipline must exist in order to curb our appetites and ensure that they do not become detrimental.
One personal craving of mine that has been left unfulfilled lately is my spiritual appetite. I’m sure this doesn't apply to any of you but… would you believe there are actually some folk out there who attend church on a regular basis yet they walk away each week lacking any form of true spiritual growth? How much longer will we sit in the sanctuary simply enjoying the 'show' before we realize that we are not being properly fed? I don't know about you but I learned as a youngster that no matter how much kool-aid I drank, it just didn't seem to fulfill my hunger. We need to stop eating in vain. Today, I suggest that you be mindful of nourishing your spiritual appetite. The whole purpose of eating is to nourish and fulfill. Let's stop eating simply to exercise our jaw bones. If that statement just went over your head, call me. Chances are we probably need to discuss a few things anyway. :-) Be blessed.
Corey R.
Are you being properly fed? Every individual is unique. However, one thing we all share in common is the fact that we each possess a craving of some sort. Some very common cravings include $ex, drugs, alcohol, food, and of course the "all mighty dollar". The appetite is capable of sending us through all sorts of extremes on a quest to fulfill our cravings. A certain level of discipline must exist in order to curb our appetites and ensure that they do not become detrimental.
One personal craving of mine that has been left unfulfilled lately is my spiritual appetite. I’m sure this doesn't apply to any of you but… would you believe there are actually some folk out there who attend church on a regular basis yet they walk away each week lacking any form of true spiritual growth? How much longer will we sit in the sanctuary simply enjoying the 'show' before we realize that we are not being properly fed? I don't know about you but I learned as a youngster that no matter how much kool-aid I drank, it just didn't seem to fulfill my hunger. We need to stop eating in vain. Today, I suggest that you be mindful of nourishing your spiritual appetite. The whole purpose of eating is to nourish and fulfill. Let's stop eating simply to exercise our jaw bones. If that statement just went over your head, call me. Chances are we probably need to discuss a few things anyway. :-) Be blessed.
Corey R.
Monday, September 11, 2006
11 Sept - WOD
Upgrade - to improve or enhance the quality or value of
Have you ever noticed how professional sports organizations that under-achieve usually find their head coach enthralled in the ugly throes of harsh criticism? I've always thought it was ironic that the head coach should be held accountable for the successes or failures of his team. Think about it: a team's athletes are drafted not by the head coach but by the president of operations. The sport is played not by the head coach but by the athletes, right? Why then is the head coach held liable for the team’s productivity? I'll tell you why.
The role of the head coach is to take a given talent pool and customize a specific style of play that will provide his team with the best probability for success. Being a head coach requires the ability to recognize and (in most cases) enable players to reach their full potential. Unfortunately, a head coach also has to understand when it is appropriate to make some personnel changes. A head coach needs to ensure that a mutual respect and camaraderie exists between his players in order for his team to enjoy championship success. The head coach knows all too well that a few bad apples really can spoil the whole bunch.
Some of us have players (family members/friends) on our team who need to be traded. No offense; we love them dearly but they don't afford us the best opportunity to maximize our potential. That doesn't necessarily make them bad players per se; nor does it qualify us as unfit head coaches. Sometimes it just means that our team chemistry is all wrong. Perhaps it's time we explored the free agency market and made a blockbuster upgrade. It makes no sense to retain an under-achieving player(s) who could potentially be a star contributor on a different team. Today, I encourage you to stock your team (support system) with talent rich players who share your vision for success. Cohesion is the key. Upgrade your team to ensure that it remains in championship form. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Have you ever noticed how professional sports organizations that under-achieve usually find their head coach enthralled in the ugly throes of harsh criticism? I've always thought it was ironic that the head coach should be held accountable for the successes or failures of his team. Think about it: a team's athletes are drafted not by the head coach but by the president of operations. The sport is played not by the head coach but by the athletes, right? Why then is the head coach held liable for the team’s productivity? I'll tell you why.
The role of the head coach is to take a given talent pool and customize a specific style of play that will provide his team with the best probability for success. Being a head coach requires the ability to recognize and (in most cases) enable players to reach their full potential. Unfortunately, a head coach also has to understand when it is appropriate to make some personnel changes. A head coach needs to ensure that a mutual respect and camaraderie exists between his players in order for his team to enjoy championship success. The head coach knows all too well that a few bad apples really can spoil the whole bunch.
Some of us have players (family members/friends) on our team who need to be traded. No offense; we love them dearly but they don't afford us the best opportunity to maximize our potential. That doesn't necessarily make them bad players per se; nor does it qualify us as unfit head coaches. Sometimes it just means that our team chemistry is all wrong. Perhaps it's time we explored the free agency market and made a blockbuster upgrade. It makes no sense to retain an under-achieving player(s) who could potentially be a star contributor on a different team. Today, I encourage you to stock your team (support system) with talent rich players who share your vision for success. Cohesion is the key. Upgrade your team to ensure that it remains in championship form. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Friday, September 08, 2006
8 Sept - WOD
Impact - to have an influence or effect on; to make an impression; alter
Special folk possess an uncanny ability to positively impact the lives of others. The true beauty of positive influence lies in the fact that you need not possess Oprah Winfrey's or Bob Johnson’s money in order to make a significant impression on someone. Each of us has been bestowed with a gift which allows us to make subtle imprints on the hearts of the people we interact with. Interestingly enough, the biggest impressions usually occur during the moments when we don't even realize that anyone is paying attention. Impact comes in a variety of shapes and sizes. Oftentimes, it takes little more than a listening ear, an encouraging word, or a kind gesture to make a lasting impression. You would be surprised to learn that even your smallest actions could prove to be monumental in the eyes of someone else. Never underestimate or take for granted your ability to make a positive impact. Enjoy your weekend. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Special folk possess an uncanny ability to positively impact the lives of others. The true beauty of positive influence lies in the fact that you need not possess Oprah Winfrey's or Bob Johnson’s money in order to make a significant impression on someone. Each of us has been bestowed with a gift which allows us to make subtle imprints on the hearts of the people we interact with. Interestingly enough, the biggest impressions usually occur during the moments when we don't even realize that anyone is paying attention. Impact comes in a variety of shapes and sizes. Oftentimes, it takes little more than a listening ear, an encouraging word, or a kind gesture to make a lasting impression. You would be surprised to learn that even your smallest actions could prove to be monumental in the eyes of someone else. Never underestimate or take for granted your ability to make a positive impact. Enjoy your weekend. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Thursday, September 07, 2006
7 Sept - WOD
Happy -
1) Characterized by or indicative of pleasure, contentment, or joy: a happy mood; a happy frame of mind.
2) Favored by fortune; fortunate or lucky: a happy, fruitful land.
As I mulled over the generic definitions of today's word, it quickly became apparent that it would be virtually impossible to paint the entire world with the same 'happy' paint brush. Have you ever turned on the news and heard the tragic story of some high profile personality who had taken his/her own life? Isn't it ironic that they possessed fame, fortune, celebrity, and a lifestyle that most would envy yet they still lacked something major, in the happiness department? If the generic definition of happy was applicable to everyone, then these actions would appear somewhat insane, right? Perhaps there is actually more to happiness than success, accomplishment, and wealth; after all.
Happiness is customizable by each individual. My definition of the word happy will clearly differ from yours. Some individuals struggle with happiness simply because they have yet to contrive their own interpretation of the word. The biggest misconception that people have is that others can provide them with happiness. Newsflash: No one else is capable of making you happy! You need to clearly identify what it is that makes you happy and then it is your sole responsibility to pursue it. When you are capable of being happy with yourself; nobody else will be able to give or steal your joy. Today, take time to compose a list of things that make you happy. Use that list to set short-term realistic goals for yourself that will allow you to spend more time doing the things you’ve documented. Be mindful to observe how happy you feel each time you scratch another goal off your list. Be blessed and while you're at it, be Happy.
Corey R.
1) Characterized by or indicative of pleasure, contentment, or joy: a happy mood; a happy frame of mind.
2) Favored by fortune; fortunate or lucky: a happy, fruitful land.
As I mulled over the generic definitions of today's word, it quickly became apparent that it would be virtually impossible to paint the entire world with the same 'happy' paint brush. Have you ever turned on the news and heard the tragic story of some high profile personality who had taken his/her own life? Isn't it ironic that they possessed fame, fortune, celebrity, and a lifestyle that most would envy yet they still lacked something major, in the happiness department? If the generic definition of happy was applicable to everyone, then these actions would appear somewhat insane, right? Perhaps there is actually more to happiness than success, accomplishment, and wealth; after all.
Happiness is customizable by each individual. My definition of the word happy will clearly differ from yours. Some individuals struggle with happiness simply because they have yet to contrive their own interpretation of the word. The biggest misconception that people have is that others can provide them with happiness. Newsflash: No one else is capable of making you happy! You need to clearly identify what it is that makes you happy and then it is your sole responsibility to pursue it. When you are capable of being happy with yourself; nobody else will be able to give or steal your joy. Today, take time to compose a list of things that make you happy. Use that list to set short-term realistic goals for yourself that will allow you to spend more time doing the things you’ve documented. Be mindful to observe how happy you feel each time you scratch another goal off your list. Be blessed and while you're at it, be Happy.
Corey R.
Wednesday, September 06, 2006
6 Sept - WOD
Tranquil - free from or unaffected by disturbing emotions; unagitated; serene; placid: a tranquil life.
On Sunday evening, I sat quietly on a wooden boat dock and gazed out into the horizon. Straight ahead, for as far as the human eye could perceive, silver clouds fought to contain subtle rays of sunlight which still occasionally managed to peak through. Every so often, from the distant background, I could hear the subdued roar of thunder crying out for attention.
As I sat in silent observance of this wonderment we call Mother Nature, I could hear the continuous streaming songs of a nearby running brook. Lake Pleasant seemed virtually undisturbed except for the sporadic movements of a small school of mackerel which inhabited the body of water and tiny specs of drizzle that danced atop the lake's tranquil surface.
At some point during my 74 minute respite, it occurred to me that tranquility costs me nothing yet affords me so much. It's true what they say, you know? Some of the best things in life are free. Today, I encourage you to take time to occasionally tranquilize your lifestyle. You can thank me for the advice later. Be blessed.
Corey R.
On Sunday evening, I sat quietly on a wooden boat dock and gazed out into the horizon. Straight ahead, for as far as the human eye could perceive, silver clouds fought to contain subtle rays of sunlight which still occasionally managed to peak through. Every so often, from the distant background, I could hear the subdued roar of thunder crying out for attention.
As I sat in silent observance of this wonderment we call Mother Nature, I could hear the continuous streaming songs of a nearby running brook. Lake Pleasant seemed virtually undisturbed except for the sporadic movements of a small school of mackerel which inhabited the body of water and tiny specs of drizzle that danced atop the lake's tranquil surface.
At some point during my 74 minute respite, it occurred to me that tranquility costs me nothing yet affords me so much. It's true what they say, you know? Some of the best things in life are free. Today, I encourage you to take time to occasionally tranquilize your lifestyle. You can thank me for the advice later. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Friday, September 01, 2006
1 Sept - WOD
Threshold - The point that must be exceeded to begin producing a given effect or result or to elicit a response.
Let's be real... some of us associate with folk who seemingly know exactly the precise combination of buttons to push in order to send our attitudes souring through the roof. Under normal circumstances we project as mild mannered and easy going individuals. Somehow these jerks are capable of provoking our fury. Why do we tolerate folk like this in our personal space? What's love got to do with it? If you have someone in your life who transforms you from Dr. Jekyll into Mr/Ms Hyde, you need to love yourself enough to remove them from your space, immediately. Worthwhile companions provoke positive changes within you; they don't bring out your worst. Do yourself a favor and cut that zero. Life is challenging enough; who has time for additional hindrances? Have a great weekend. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Let's be real... some of us associate with folk who seemingly know exactly the precise combination of buttons to push in order to send our attitudes souring through the roof. Under normal circumstances we project as mild mannered and easy going individuals. Somehow these jerks are capable of provoking our fury. Why do we tolerate folk like this in our personal space? What's love got to do with it? If you have someone in your life who transforms you from Dr. Jekyll into Mr/Ms Hyde, you need to love yourself enough to remove them from your space, immediately. Worthwhile companions provoke positive changes within you; they don't bring out your worst. Do yourself a favor and cut that zero. Life is challenging enough; who has time for additional hindrances? Have a great weekend. Be blessed.
Corey R.
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