Convenient - suitable or agreeable to the needs or purpose; well-suited with respect to facility or ease in use; favorable, easy, or comfortable for use.
Do you have acquaintances that make you feel as if they only fraternize with you when it is convenient for them? If you are unable to discern, now is as good a time as any to check for warning signs. Do you have a friend who you only hear from when he is in need of a favor? Perhaps you have a relative who only comes around when her money is funny because she knows you'll provide for her. Authentic relationships are reciprocal in nature. If within a given friendship you notice that you are rarely the recipient of generosity, then clearly you need to revisit the definition of friendship. Indications are that you're being manipulated. One very popular proverb states "to whom much is given, much is required." Today, I beckon you to require just as much effort from your loved ones as you expend. The situation doesn’t necessarily need to be “tit for tat”, but these free-loading loved ones must be held accountable within the relationship as well. That’s right, I said it! Stand firmly for something or fall for anything. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Thursday, August 31, 2006
Wednesday, August 30, 2006
30 Aug - WOD
Lose - to fail inadvertently to retain (something) in such a way that it cannot be immediately recovered:
Have you ever had to come to terms with the fact that you'd lost something very valuable? Whether that object was a family heirloom, an estate, or a lover... I’m willing to bet that it was very difficult to absorb the loss. The irony about loss is that it can often be attributed to carelessness on the victim’s behalf. The question then arises... how is it that one can afford to be careless with his/her valuables? Please allow me to summarize the answer with one word; COMPLACENCY. A wise man is one who learns to cherish and appreciate his valuables without first having to part ways with them. Today, I strongly suggest that you treat your valuables as such. Rumor has it...you will surely miss your water, once your well runs dry. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Have you ever had to come to terms with the fact that you'd lost something very valuable? Whether that object was a family heirloom, an estate, or a lover... I’m willing to bet that it was very difficult to absorb the loss. The irony about loss is that it can often be attributed to carelessness on the victim’s behalf. The question then arises... how is it that one can afford to be careless with his/her valuables? Please allow me to summarize the answer with one word; COMPLACENCY. A wise man is one who learns to cherish and appreciate his valuables without first having to part ways with them. Today, I strongly suggest that you treat your valuables as such. Rumor has it...you will surely miss your water, once your well runs dry. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Tuesday, August 29, 2006
29 Aug - WOD
Communicate - to express thoughts, feelings, or information easily or effectively.
The preferential method of communication utilized by man is verbal communication. Most of us convey our ideas and opinions by way of conversation. There is a thin line however between effective and reckless verbal communication. For example, if your conversations often escalate into shouting matches, chances are... you're not getting your point across to the recipient of your tirades. Or if you have a habit of cursing uncontrollably, throwing tantrums, and talking down to people... rest assured your comments are not well received.
Effective communication exists only when two individuals agree to respectfully discuss a given topic. Only one person can effectively communicate at a time. If you are too impatient to hear your counterpart's soliloquy till the end, face it... you are not an effective communicator. Effective verbal communication requires a mutual respect for the opinions, thoughts, and ideas of the two parties involved in a given discussion. Regardless of whether the discussion turns heated or not... if there is a genuine level of mutual respect, each individual should be allowed an opportunity to speak, free of outbursts and interruptions.
Some people truly believe that their mood should determine the tone of a discussion. In other words, they reserve the right to talk to others like crap simply because they're upset and they disagree with the other person's outlook. That is ludicrous! A Muslim and a Jew could very well have a respectful conversation about religion. Despite their obvious conflicting views, if the two individuals agree to listen respectfully to the issues presented by one another, they each stand a pretty good chance of learning something new about the other individual's ideology. It's perfectly acceptable to walk away from a discussion agreeing to disagree. Effective communication does not guarantee that the two parties will see eye to eye. Effective communication does guarantee that both parties will be given the opportunity to convey an otherwise unknown vantage point to his/her audience.
If you are not a very effective verbal communicator, perhaps it might be a good idea for you start writing down your ideas before presenting them. This method may provide you with an opportunity to organize your thoughts to ensure that they are better received by your intended audience. Today, I recommend that you choose the thoughts you convey more carefully. You are so much smarter than your conversations indicate. Don't lead folk to believe that your vocabulary is limited strictly to four letter words. Be blessed.
Corey R.
The preferential method of communication utilized by man is verbal communication. Most of us convey our ideas and opinions by way of conversation. There is a thin line however between effective and reckless verbal communication. For example, if your conversations often escalate into shouting matches, chances are... you're not getting your point across to the recipient of your tirades. Or if you have a habit of cursing uncontrollably, throwing tantrums, and talking down to people... rest assured your comments are not well received.
Effective communication exists only when two individuals agree to respectfully discuss a given topic. Only one person can effectively communicate at a time. If you are too impatient to hear your counterpart's soliloquy till the end, face it... you are not an effective communicator. Effective verbal communication requires a mutual respect for the opinions, thoughts, and ideas of the two parties involved in a given discussion. Regardless of whether the discussion turns heated or not... if there is a genuine level of mutual respect, each individual should be allowed an opportunity to speak, free of outbursts and interruptions.
Some people truly believe that their mood should determine the tone of a discussion. In other words, they reserve the right to talk to others like crap simply because they're upset and they disagree with the other person's outlook. That is ludicrous! A Muslim and a Jew could very well have a respectful conversation about religion. Despite their obvious conflicting views, if the two individuals agree to listen respectfully to the issues presented by one another, they each stand a pretty good chance of learning something new about the other individual's ideology. It's perfectly acceptable to walk away from a discussion agreeing to disagree. Effective communication does not guarantee that the two parties will see eye to eye. Effective communication does guarantee that both parties will be given the opportunity to convey an otherwise unknown vantage point to his/her audience.
If you are not a very effective verbal communicator, perhaps it might be a good idea for you start writing down your ideas before presenting them. This method may provide you with an opportunity to organize your thoughts to ensure that they are better received by your intended audience. Today, I recommend that you choose the thoughts you convey more carefully. You are so much smarter than your conversations indicate. Don't lead folk to believe that your vocabulary is limited strictly to four letter words. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Monday, August 28, 2006
28 Aug - WOD
Blinder - Something that serves to obscure clear perception and discernment.
Have you ever paid attention to the manner in which Venetian blinds curtail blaring sunlight? Interestingly enough, those same blinds also manage to conceal the secret occurrences (inside of a given room) from the outside world. Blinds are multi-faceted. They hinder us from seeing the world clearly while simultaneously allowing the world less exposure to our exclusive endeavors.
Some of us have personal blinders. Have you ever allowed your emotional attachment to an individual to hinder you from seeing that person as he/she truly is? Chances are you've made excuses for the behaviors of a friend or relative because you loved them. It's a natural reflex to tend to divert the negative characteristics of a loved one in exchange for a more optimistic perspective. Some of us decorate our lives with mini-blinds. Although mini blinds provide their fair share of shielding, they still manage to provide us access to enough light that we are able to ultimately identify a person for whom they truly are. Those of us with mini blind situations are usually able to eventually see our way clear to pull a loved ones card.
There are some of us, however, who decorate the windows of our lives with far heavier artillery. I refer to these people as Vertical blind individuals. They are incapable of seeing any sunlight and therefore remain captive to facades and deceptions created by a loved one, far too long. Very little truth is able to shine through vertical blinds and as a result these individuals usually become enablers for the behavior(s) that their loved one exhibits. If you're reading this passage... OPEN YOUR BLINDS!!! It's time we started labeling our loved ones accordingly. If you notice that a close friend is displaying detrimental behavior… instead of closing your blinds, open them wide and allow some sunlight to shine on your friend's dark situation. Today, I suggest that you stop enabling the counter-productive behavior of your loved ones. Retract your blinds and let the light of Truth shine through. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Have you ever paid attention to the manner in which Venetian blinds curtail blaring sunlight? Interestingly enough, those same blinds also manage to conceal the secret occurrences (inside of a given room) from the outside world. Blinds are multi-faceted. They hinder us from seeing the world clearly while simultaneously allowing the world less exposure to our exclusive endeavors.
Some of us have personal blinders. Have you ever allowed your emotional attachment to an individual to hinder you from seeing that person as he/she truly is? Chances are you've made excuses for the behaviors of a friend or relative because you loved them. It's a natural reflex to tend to divert the negative characteristics of a loved one in exchange for a more optimistic perspective. Some of us decorate our lives with mini-blinds. Although mini blinds provide their fair share of shielding, they still manage to provide us access to enough light that we are able to ultimately identify a person for whom they truly are. Those of us with mini blind situations are usually able to eventually see our way clear to pull a loved ones card.
There are some of us, however, who decorate the windows of our lives with far heavier artillery. I refer to these people as Vertical blind individuals. They are incapable of seeing any sunlight and therefore remain captive to facades and deceptions created by a loved one, far too long. Very little truth is able to shine through vertical blinds and as a result these individuals usually become enablers for the behavior(s) that their loved one exhibits. If you're reading this passage... OPEN YOUR BLINDS!!! It's time we started labeling our loved ones accordingly. If you notice that a close friend is displaying detrimental behavior… instead of closing your blinds, open them wide and allow some sunlight to shine on your friend's dark situation. Today, I suggest that you stop enabling the counter-productive behavior of your loved ones. Retract your blinds and let the light of Truth shine through. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Friday, August 25, 2006
25 Aug - WOD
Valuable - having qualities worthy of respect, admiration, or esteem: a valuable friend.
Good morning brothers and sisters. Do you know what it means to value another individual? Some of us are valued by our friends. Likewise, some of us have friends who are valuable to us. We value their opinion, perception, advice, and insight. On the flip side, some of us are affiliated with individuals who (due to some underlying set of circumstances) are unable to fully comprehend our worth. Have you ever brought a concern to the attention of a friend only to be rebuked? Have you ever heard these words: "I don't appreciate having you question my actions; I'm grown"? If you have heard similar words retorted from the mouth of a friend, you need to understand that there is a definite problem. You see... when an individual truly values your friendship, they don't react overly defensive when required to address your concerns. In fact, true friends usually feel obliged to relieve any worries or uncertainties that may plague other friends. If a person you consider to be a friend shuns your concerns, you need to be clear that they are essentially showing you that your uneasiness is of no concern to them. Whether the individual feels that your concerns are warranted or not, a genuine friend should take the time to ensure that you reach a certain level of comfort with the addressed issue(s). If the people you value most don't seem to reciprocate that notion, ‘CHECK EM’. Today, I challenge you to realize your own self-worth. Raise the bar to require your friends to treat you like the valuable asset that you are. Have a wonderful weekend. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Good morning brothers and sisters. Do you know what it means to value another individual? Some of us are valued by our friends. Likewise, some of us have friends who are valuable to us. We value their opinion, perception, advice, and insight. On the flip side, some of us are affiliated with individuals who (due to some underlying set of circumstances) are unable to fully comprehend our worth. Have you ever brought a concern to the attention of a friend only to be rebuked? Have you ever heard these words: "I don't appreciate having you question my actions; I'm grown"? If you have heard similar words retorted from the mouth of a friend, you need to understand that there is a definite problem. You see... when an individual truly values your friendship, they don't react overly defensive when required to address your concerns. In fact, true friends usually feel obliged to relieve any worries or uncertainties that may plague other friends. If a person you consider to be a friend shuns your concerns, you need to be clear that they are essentially showing you that your uneasiness is of no concern to them. Whether the individual feels that your concerns are warranted or not, a genuine friend should take the time to ensure that you reach a certain level of comfort with the addressed issue(s). If the people you value most don't seem to reciprocate that notion, ‘CHECK EM’. Today, I challenge you to realize your own self-worth. Raise the bar to require your friends to treat you like the valuable asset that you are. Have a wonderful weekend. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Thursday, August 24, 2006
24 Aug - WOD
Patience - an ability or willingness to suppress restlessness or annoyance when confronted with delay: to have patience with a slow learner.
Lack of patience has plagued many of us on innumerous occasions yet we still struggle to readily exhibit the characteristic. Are you familiar with the proverb that says "good things come to those who wait"? Chances are you've heard that one before. You may also be familiar with the popular saying "patience is a virtue". Unfortunately, it's a virtue that far too many of us have never embraced. Have you ever stopped to ask yourself what is the big rush? Most of the time, we are in such a hurry to get absolutely nowhere. Some of us speed excessively toward a future that we hope will include marriage, financial stability, success, etc.
Instead of pacing ourselves so that we're in the best possible position to receive our eventual blessings, we often try to dictate the rate at which our goals materialize. The truth of the matter is any goal attained before its due time will not benefit us anyway. Most impulsive people find themselves caught in a rat race constantly trying to get to the next plateau of their life. Before long, they're burnt out and usually find that they've made insignificant strides towards their ultimate goal. I dare ask… what’s the point of taking a crowded escalator from one landing to the next if eventually the express elevator predestined for your terminal will arrive? We usually end up doing double the work and exerting triple the effort when we try to impose our own will upon our destiny. Today, I encourage you to employ faith whenever your patience runs thin. What is meant to be will be. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Lack of patience has plagued many of us on innumerous occasions yet we still struggle to readily exhibit the characteristic. Are you familiar with the proverb that says "good things come to those who wait"? Chances are you've heard that one before. You may also be familiar with the popular saying "patience is a virtue". Unfortunately, it's a virtue that far too many of us have never embraced. Have you ever stopped to ask yourself what is the big rush? Most of the time, we are in such a hurry to get absolutely nowhere. Some of us speed excessively toward a future that we hope will include marriage, financial stability, success, etc.
Instead of pacing ourselves so that we're in the best possible position to receive our eventual blessings, we often try to dictate the rate at which our goals materialize. The truth of the matter is any goal attained before its due time will not benefit us anyway. Most impulsive people find themselves caught in a rat race constantly trying to get to the next plateau of their life. Before long, they're burnt out and usually find that they've made insignificant strides towards their ultimate goal. I dare ask… what’s the point of taking a crowded escalator from one landing to the next if eventually the express elevator predestined for your terminal will arrive? We usually end up doing double the work and exerting triple the effort when we try to impose our own will upon our destiny. Today, I encourage you to employ faith whenever your patience runs thin. What is meant to be will be. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Wednesday, August 23, 2006
23 Aug -WOD
Counterfeit -
1) To carry on a deception; dissemble.
2) To make fraudulent copies of something valuable.
Is it just me or do phony individuals turn your stomach too? I have an extremely difficult time tolerating fraudulent folk, mainly because I was raised to value authenticity. I am a firm believer in the concept that quality outweighs quantity. Let's take for instance, the quality of a friendship. I would much rather have one bona fide ally who will get down in the trenches and go to war with me than an entourage of pretenders who will flee at the first indication of adversity.
Phonies come in a variety of shapes and sizes. She might come in the form of a beautiful woman who you genuinely like yet she only interacts with you because she never has to spend a dime when the two of you hang out. He might also come in the fashion of a politician who strategically journeys down to the hood once every election year to secure the vote of the commoners. These types of phonies are pretty easy to spot but what about the bootleg homies who you've known for years?
Ever notice how some of your so called ‘friends’ always seem to show up whenever the drinks are flowing, the money is plentiful, and beautiful women are in abundance? How many of those same dudes were there when you needed help moving out of your apartment? A phony will agree with whatever you say because there are no benefits associated with disagreement. A true friend will not hesitate to let you know when your outlook on a particular issue is flat out wrong. A phony will tell you there are plenty other fishes in the sea. A true friend will help you piece your broken heart back together and then invite you to a singles bar. Phonies usually flock to you when you're at your best. A true friend has stood shoulder to shoulder with you while you were at your worst. Today, I advise you to embrace a circle of authenticity. Remove phony people from your personal space to allow room for an additional genuine friend. Be blessed.
Corey R.
1) To carry on a deception; dissemble.
2) To make fraudulent copies of something valuable.
Is it just me or do phony individuals turn your stomach too? I have an extremely difficult time tolerating fraudulent folk, mainly because I was raised to value authenticity. I am a firm believer in the concept that quality outweighs quantity. Let's take for instance, the quality of a friendship. I would much rather have one bona fide ally who will get down in the trenches and go to war with me than an entourage of pretenders who will flee at the first indication of adversity.
Phonies come in a variety of shapes and sizes. She might come in the form of a beautiful woman who you genuinely like yet she only interacts with you because she never has to spend a dime when the two of you hang out. He might also come in the fashion of a politician who strategically journeys down to the hood once every election year to secure the vote of the commoners. These types of phonies are pretty easy to spot but what about the bootleg homies who you've known for years?
Ever notice how some of your so called ‘friends’ always seem to show up whenever the drinks are flowing, the money is plentiful, and beautiful women are in abundance? How many of those same dudes were there when you needed help moving out of your apartment? A phony will agree with whatever you say because there are no benefits associated with disagreement. A true friend will not hesitate to let you know when your outlook on a particular issue is flat out wrong. A phony will tell you there are plenty other fishes in the sea. A true friend will help you piece your broken heart back together and then invite you to a singles bar. Phonies usually flock to you when you're at your best. A true friend has stood shoulder to shoulder with you while you were at your worst. Today, I advise you to embrace a circle of authenticity. Remove phony people from your personal space to allow room for an additional genuine friend. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Tuesday, August 22, 2006
22 Aug - WOD
Contradict -
1) To assert or express the opposite of (a statement).
2) To be contrary to; be inconsistent with.
Are you the type of individual who continually speaks of establishing a significant nest egg savings fund despite the fact that you have an uncontrollable shopping addiction? Do you have plans of being in a monogamous marriage even though you've never practiced fidelity in any of your former relationships? Do you have aspirations of owning that big, beautiful house with the white picket fence albeit your current credit score won't even allow you to get a tent in your name? Some of us have goals that are contrary to our current circumstances?
The good news is that circumstances are always subject to change. Just because you find yourself in what appears to be a dismal situation today, does not imply that your conditions are permanent. However, it is unrealistic to think that you can continue to exhibit the poor habits, patterns, and trends that have landed you in your current adverse situation and still somehow watch all your dreams manifest. Please believe me when I tell you that is not going to happen. There is absolutely nothing wrong with dreaming or having aspirations. In fact, I believe that both concepts are healthy. In order to reach your target though, eventually your actions will need to align with your goals.
Today, I encourage you to let your actions be more consistent with your aspirations. You're going to need more powerful ammunition in order to shoot for the moon. Be blessed.
Corey R.
1) To assert or express the opposite of (a statement).
2) To be contrary to; be inconsistent with.
Are you the type of individual who continually speaks of establishing a significant nest egg savings fund despite the fact that you have an uncontrollable shopping addiction? Do you have plans of being in a monogamous marriage even though you've never practiced fidelity in any of your former relationships? Do you have aspirations of owning that big, beautiful house with the white picket fence albeit your current credit score won't even allow you to get a tent in your name? Some of us have goals that are contrary to our current circumstances?
The good news is that circumstances are always subject to change. Just because you find yourself in what appears to be a dismal situation today, does not imply that your conditions are permanent. However, it is unrealistic to think that you can continue to exhibit the poor habits, patterns, and trends that have landed you in your current adverse situation and still somehow watch all your dreams manifest. Please believe me when I tell you that is not going to happen. There is absolutely nothing wrong with dreaming or having aspirations. In fact, I believe that both concepts are healthy. In order to reach your target though, eventually your actions will need to align with your goals.
Today, I encourage you to let your actions be more consistent with your aspirations. You're going to need more powerful ammunition in order to shoot for the moon. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Monday, August 21, 2006
21 Aug - WOD
Cherish - To treat with affection and tenderness; hold dear: cherish one's family
Family is the cornerstone of society... or at least it ought to be. Our hectic schedules sometimes prevent us from interacting with certain loved ones as frequently as we'd like. We continually promise ourselves that we'll find time to pay a visit to a favorite aunt, a distant cousin, a distressed sibling, or a sickly grandparent. Somehow it never fails; weeks seem to slip away and we still haven't found the time to fellowship with our relatives. Perhaps that is because our approach is all wrong. Time is very elusive. If we continue to try to 'find time', we might never get around to doing the very things we set out to accomplish. Today, instead of finding time, why not 'take time' to pay a loved one an overdue visit. A gentleman whose opinion I respect deeply once told me something that makes perfect sense. He said that he wants his loved ones to celebrate his life while he's still here to celebrate with us as opposed to waiting until he’s no longer amongst us. Far too often, we find ourselves attending the funeral of a loved one, bearing fond memories of days long gone. Let's make time, even today, to create more fond memories while we still have our loved ones here to cherish. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Family is the cornerstone of society... or at least it ought to be. Our hectic schedules sometimes prevent us from interacting with certain loved ones as frequently as we'd like. We continually promise ourselves that we'll find time to pay a visit to a favorite aunt, a distant cousin, a distressed sibling, or a sickly grandparent. Somehow it never fails; weeks seem to slip away and we still haven't found the time to fellowship with our relatives. Perhaps that is because our approach is all wrong. Time is very elusive. If we continue to try to 'find time', we might never get around to doing the very things we set out to accomplish. Today, instead of finding time, why not 'take time' to pay a loved one an overdue visit. A gentleman whose opinion I respect deeply once told me something that makes perfect sense. He said that he wants his loved ones to celebrate his life while he's still here to celebrate with us as opposed to waiting until he’s no longer amongst us. Far too often, we find ourselves attending the funeral of a loved one, bearing fond memories of days long gone. Let's make time, even today, to create more fond memories while we still have our loved ones here to cherish. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Friday, August 18, 2006
18 Aug - WOD
Representative - one that exemplifies another or others in a special capacity:
Are you sick and tired of being hoodwinked, bamboozled, and led astray by impersonators? Allow me to clarify: Ladies, remember ole' boy from the lounge, he was quite the gentleman upon introduction, right? He seemed to have his 'stuff' together. This guy had all 3 A's down pat... he was attentive, attractive, and articulate. Not to mention he drives a fancy car. It’s too bad he failed to mention his 4 kids or the fact that he's 34 years old and still lives with his parents.
Hold on fellas... What about the stunning sister you met in Starbucks, during your lunch hour. In your brief discussion, you were able to ascertain that she was working on her PhD., was the owner of a successful small business, and she had no kids. Funny how she never mentioned her three former marriages until after you started dating. I'll bet you never imagined a woman that fine could turn out to be a stalker either, did you? Now she just patrols your neighborhood looking to vandalize any foreign vehicle parked outside your door. That's what happens when we fall for the representative and not the real individual.
In all honesty, we all have representatives. We send our representatives on job interviews all the time. Think about it... we show up on time, decked out, hair done, with a very pleasant demeanor. Two weeks after we get hired, we start showing up to work late, clothes are wrinkled, we take two hour lunch breaks to run personal errands, and our workplace demeanor is far from cordial. This isn’t the same person your manager hired. That was your representative.
Many of us send our representative to church too. We strut in the building looking and smelling like a million bucks yet we can't even sew an offering this week because we only have $16 in the bank till payday. Tell the truth and shame the Devil.
I wouldn’t dare mention the way some of us get fancied up to go out to the club. We look real good too ... meanwhile, one friend is paying our way in the club and another is buying our drinks. Nobody would ever know your pockets were empty by looking at your representative but the real you knows the truth. Get a grip people!!!
Today, why not begin living in such a manner that the "real you" is always an accurate representation of your absolute level best? Happy Friday. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Are you sick and tired of being hoodwinked, bamboozled, and led astray by impersonators? Allow me to clarify: Ladies, remember ole' boy from the lounge, he was quite the gentleman upon introduction, right? He seemed to have his 'stuff' together. This guy had all 3 A's down pat... he was attentive, attractive, and articulate. Not to mention he drives a fancy car. It’s too bad he failed to mention his 4 kids or the fact that he's 34 years old and still lives with his parents.
Hold on fellas... What about the stunning sister you met in Starbucks, during your lunch hour. In your brief discussion, you were able to ascertain that she was working on her PhD., was the owner of a successful small business, and she had no kids. Funny how she never mentioned her three former marriages until after you started dating. I'll bet you never imagined a woman that fine could turn out to be a stalker either, did you? Now she just patrols your neighborhood looking to vandalize any foreign vehicle parked outside your door. That's what happens when we fall for the representative and not the real individual.
In all honesty, we all have representatives. We send our representatives on job interviews all the time. Think about it... we show up on time, decked out, hair done, with a very pleasant demeanor. Two weeks after we get hired, we start showing up to work late, clothes are wrinkled, we take two hour lunch breaks to run personal errands, and our workplace demeanor is far from cordial. This isn’t the same person your manager hired. That was your representative.
Many of us send our representative to church too. We strut in the building looking and smelling like a million bucks yet we can't even sew an offering this week because we only have $16 in the bank till payday. Tell the truth and shame the Devil.
I wouldn’t dare mention the way some of us get fancied up to go out to the club. We look real good too ... meanwhile, one friend is paying our way in the club and another is buying our drinks. Nobody would ever know your pockets were empty by looking at your representative but the real you knows the truth. Get a grip people!!!
Today, why not begin living in such a manner that the "real you" is always an accurate representation of your absolute level best? Happy Friday. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Thursday, August 17, 2006
17 Aug - WOD
Trust - Firm reliance on the integrity, ability, or character of a person or thing.
Listen up good people: It is an absolute outrage that even today, some of you still find yourself snooping around your lover’s residence looking for evidence of foul play. There are three very obvious problems with this situation. 1) If you feel the need to resort to such antics, your relationship is already in jeopardy. 2) You have no right to rummage through another individual's private items. 3) You should never allow anyone to molest your sanity in such a manner that you feel compelled to play detective. Trying to maintain a healthy relationship with an untrustworthy individual is similar to trying to spoon feed an untamed Lion... the task will eventually leave you (emotionally) bruised, battered, and torn.
Keep in mind that none of us are perfect. Be extremely careful before slapping the 'untrustworthy' stamp on an individual. However, repeat offenders are automatic nominees for the '2006 Fink Award'. If you've been wronged by the same individual time and time again, SHAME ON YOU! Now, If you have any bit of good sense left in that head of yours, you'll do like Tom Hanks and ..."Run Forrest run!" On the other hand, if you are an offender who has been caught out there on numerous occasions, you need not consider reconciliation. Regaining your lover's trust could take as long as (but not limited to) two lifetimes. Trust me; you'd rather be stranded somewhere on death row.
What’s fascinating is… if we'd only listen to the voice of reason more often, we would almost always use better judgment. Think about it for a second; if your boyfriend hides his cell phone bill from you, how the heck can you expect him to be honest about his impromptu visit to his hometown where he just happened to shoot billiards with his ex (while he was supposedly visiting the fellas)? Simple; you can't!!! And brothas, if you can't trust your lady to not flirt with every dude in the local pubs, what makes you think she'll be on her best behavior (on a weekend getaway with the girls), in Trinidad? You need to stop fooling yourself, bro. Do you actually think such a relationship is headed somewhere serious? Wake up Mutley because you're dreaming again. Today, I strongly suggest that if you want to trust something, start by trusting your instincts. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Listen up good people: It is an absolute outrage that even today, some of you still find yourself snooping around your lover’s residence looking for evidence of foul play. There are three very obvious problems with this situation. 1) If you feel the need to resort to such antics, your relationship is already in jeopardy. 2) You have no right to rummage through another individual's private items. 3) You should never allow anyone to molest your sanity in such a manner that you feel compelled to play detective. Trying to maintain a healthy relationship with an untrustworthy individual is similar to trying to spoon feed an untamed Lion... the task will eventually leave you (emotionally) bruised, battered, and torn.
Keep in mind that none of us are perfect. Be extremely careful before slapping the 'untrustworthy' stamp on an individual. However, repeat offenders are automatic nominees for the '2006 Fink Award'. If you've been wronged by the same individual time and time again, SHAME ON YOU! Now, If you have any bit of good sense left in that head of yours, you'll do like Tom Hanks and ..."Run Forrest run!" On the other hand, if you are an offender who has been caught out there on numerous occasions, you need not consider reconciliation. Regaining your lover's trust could take as long as (but not limited to) two lifetimes. Trust me; you'd rather be stranded somewhere on death row.
What’s fascinating is… if we'd only listen to the voice of reason more often, we would almost always use better judgment. Think about it for a second; if your boyfriend hides his cell phone bill from you, how the heck can you expect him to be honest about his impromptu visit to his hometown where he just happened to shoot billiards with his ex (while he was supposedly visiting the fellas)? Simple; you can't!!! And brothas, if you can't trust your lady to not flirt with every dude in the local pubs, what makes you think she'll be on her best behavior (on a weekend getaway with the girls), in Trinidad? You need to stop fooling yourself, bro. Do you actually think such a relationship is headed somewhere serious? Wake up Mutley because you're dreaming again. Today, I strongly suggest that if you want to trust something, start by trusting your instincts. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Wednesday, August 16, 2006
WOD - Aug 16
Venture - An undertaking that is dangerous, daring, or of uncertain outcome.
Have you ever heard the saying "nothing ventured; nothing gained"? In laymen’s terms that adage means ...if you don't accept any challenges, you run the risk of missing out on the potential rewards. Wise folk often offer the advice that 'nothing beats a failure but a try'. If that is truly the case, doesn't it make far more logical sense to give a tenacious attempt at everything you do rather than to simply waver in defeat?
Sometimes however, defeat comes in spite of a valiant effort. Take for instance, the individual who continually tries to orchestrate a positive result out of a negative situation. Let's face it; some of our boldest attempts will go in vain. Unfortunately, there are certain outcomes that even our most stellar efforts cannot alter.
When is enough, enough? What are the tell tale signs that let you know when it's time to wave the white flag of surrender? Many of us will ponder these types of questions at some point in our lives. Whether our venture is in the form of a long term personal goal, a relationship, or a career opportunity… there will come a day when we'll have to accept the fact that we've devoted as much energy as possible to a given situation. At that stage, we will know beyond the shadow of a doubt that it's time to concentrate our efforts on a different venture.
Are you expending excessive time and energy towards a 'lose-lose' situation? Do you sometimes feel as though you're damned if you do; damned if you don't? Perhaps it's time you tried something altogether different. Every venture that we undertake is not going to yield a successful outcome. Today, I encourage you to give every venture your best effort but also know when to say “ENOUGH”! Be blessed.
Corey R.
Have you ever heard the saying "nothing ventured; nothing gained"? In laymen’s terms that adage means ...if you don't accept any challenges, you run the risk of missing out on the potential rewards. Wise folk often offer the advice that 'nothing beats a failure but a try'. If that is truly the case, doesn't it make far more logical sense to give a tenacious attempt at everything you do rather than to simply waver in defeat?
Sometimes however, defeat comes in spite of a valiant effort. Take for instance, the individual who continually tries to orchestrate a positive result out of a negative situation. Let's face it; some of our boldest attempts will go in vain. Unfortunately, there are certain outcomes that even our most stellar efforts cannot alter.
When is enough, enough? What are the tell tale signs that let you know when it's time to wave the white flag of surrender? Many of us will ponder these types of questions at some point in our lives. Whether our venture is in the form of a long term personal goal, a relationship, or a career opportunity… there will come a day when we'll have to accept the fact that we've devoted as much energy as possible to a given situation. At that stage, we will know beyond the shadow of a doubt that it's time to concentrate our efforts on a different venture.
Are you expending excessive time and energy towards a 'lose-lose' situation? Do you sometimes feel as though you're damned if you do; damned if you don't? Perhaps it's time you tried something altogether different. Every venture that we undertake is not going to yield a successful outcome. Today, I encourage you to give every venture your best effort but also know when to say “ENOUGH”! Be blessed.
Corey R.
Tuesday, August 15, 2006
Companion -
a) A person who accompanies or associates with another; a comrade.
b) A domestic partner.
It didn't take long after God created man for Him to realize that his finest creation could never maximize its potential without an equal and compatible partner. My extensive research suggests that there are contrasting views regarding companionship. Some individuals believe that it is important to spend ample time alone getting to know and love oneself. Others believe that companionship plays a vital role in the evolution of a well rounded human being. I dare say there is some validity to both arguments. Certainly, we all need to evolve to a space where we are comfortable in our own skin, whether single or married. However, if the possibility for favorable compatibility comes along, we would be negligent to allow the opportunity to pass us by. You are considered blessed… if in your lifetime you are fortunate enough to cross paths with one handful of good companions. Keep that statistic in mind, while you’re ‘doing you’. Today, I urge you… be less hasty to forfeit worthwhile companionship. Be blessed.
Corey R.
a) A person who accompanies or associates with another; a comrade.
b) A domestic partner.
It didn't take long after God created man for Him to realize that his finest creation could never maximize its potential without an equal and compatible partner. My extensive research suggests that there are contrasting views regarding companionship. Some individuals believe that it is important to spend ample time alone getting to know and love oneself. Others believe that companionship plays a vital role in the evolution of a well rounded human being. I dare say there is some validity to both arguments. Certainly, we all need to evolve to a space where we are comfortable in our own skin, whether single or married. However, if the possibility for favorable compatibility comes along, we would be negligent to allow the opportunity to pass us by. You are considered blessed… if in your lifetime you are fortunate enough to cross paths with one handful of good companions. Keep that statistic in mind, while you’re ‘doing you’. Today, I urge you… be less hasty to forfeit worthwhile companionship. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Monday, August 14, 2006
Word of the Day - by C-Luv - Aug 14
Proactive vs. Reactive
Proactive - Acting in advance to deal with an expected difficulty; anticipatory:
Reactive - Tending to be responsive or to react to a situation.
As we continue our inevitable progression as responsible adults, we are occasionally faced with the daunting task of having to make difficult and sometimes even pivotal decisions. Eventually we will all come face to face with the unwelcome duty of having to make life altering choices. We will ultimately contemplate ways to address decisions that affect our careers, relationships, investments, faith, and the likes.
There are two approaches that most individuals take when it comes to dealing with tough decisions. One method is to take a proactive approach to address the issue. Proactive measures for handling a difficult decision means that an individual has made a conscious effort to influence the outcome of a given situation. An assertive individual will make a decision based on what he/she feels will offer the best opportunity for success.
On the other hand, there are ultra-conservative individuals who would prefer to allow a challenging situation to resolve itself. This type of reactive approach oftentimes affords the individual with an easy escape. He/she will simply allow the outcome to be decided by chance or through the decision making abilities of someone else in order to lessen the burden on him/herself. Let's face it; some of us are bold and fearless so we like to take control of our own destiny. Others are far less confrontational and would prefer to seek refuge until the storm subsides. Sometimes our storms last far longer than intended simply because we are too afraid to face them head on.
Today, I encourage you to assert yourself. Dare to make your own decisions. Don't leave your destiny in the hands of chance. Get out from under that rock. You can't get to your sunshine without first enduring a little rain! Be blessed.
Corey R.
Proactive - Acting in advance to deal with an expected difficulty; anticipatory:
Reactive - Tending to be responsive or to react to a situation.
As we continue our inevitable progression as responsible adults, we are occasionally faced with the daunting task of having to make difficult and sometimes even pivotal decisions. Eventually we will all come face to face with the unwelcome duty of having to make life altering choices. We will ultimately contemplate ways to address decisions that affect our careers, relationships, investments, faith, and the likes.
There are two approaches that most individuals take when it comes to dealing with tough decisions. One method is to take a proactive approach to address the issue. Proactive measures for handling a difficult decision means that an individual has made a conscious effort to influence the outcome of a given situation. An assertive individual will make a decision based on what he/she feels will offer the best opportunity for success.
On the other hand, there are ultra-conservative individuals who would prefer to allow a challenging situation to resolve itself. This type of reactive approach oftentimes affords the individual with an easy escape. He/she will simply allow the outcome to be decided by chance or through the decision making abilities of someone else in order to lessen the burden on him/herself. Let's face it; some of us are bold and fearless so we like to take control of our own destiny. Others are far less confrontational and would prefer to seek refuge until the storm subsides. Sometimes our storms last far longer than intended simply because we are too afraid to face them head on.
Today, I encourage you to assert yourself. Dare to make your own decisions. Don't leave your destiny in the hands of chance. Get out from under that rock. You can't get to your sunshine without first enduring a little rain! Be blessed.
Corey R.
Friday, August 11, 2006
Word of the Day - by C-Luv - Aug 11
Credit –
1) A reputation for sound character or quality; standing: It is to their credit that they worked so hard without complaining.
2) A reputation for solvency and integrity entitling a person to be trusted in buying or borrowing: You should have no trouble getting the loan if your credit is good.
Have you ever noticed that although the word credit has two very distinct meanings, both definitions ultimately affect us in a very similar manner? Allow me to break down the not so obvious similarities. Definition # 1 implies that a person of good professional character earns a positive reputation amongst peers and colleagues. Definition # 2 implies that an individual in good financial standing earns a positive reputation amongst loan agencies and financial institutions.
One can thereby deduce that an individual who has established a reputation of poor credit either professionally or financially will fall into one of two categories. First category: he/she will need a ‘co-signer’ to vouch for his/her character with regards to either employment or financial opportunities. Second category: he/she will be denied most employment or loan opportunities that are independently applied for.
Wouldn’t you much rather rely solely upon your own credit in these instances? Today, I encourage you the begin cleaning up both your personal and financial reputation so that you can control your own fate. Be blessed.
Corey R.
1) A reputation for sound character or quality; standing: It is to their credit that they worked so hard without complaining.
2) A reputation for solvency and integrity entitling a person to be trusted in buying or borrowing: You should have no trouble getting the loan if your credit is good.
Have you ever noticed that although the word credit has two very distinct meanings, both definitions ultimately affect us in a very similar manner? Allow me to break down the not so obvious similarities. Definition # 1 implies that a person of good professional character earns a positive reputation amongst peers and colleagues. Definition # 2 implies that an individual in good financial standing earns a positive reputation amongst loan agencies and financial institutions.
One can thereby deduce that an individual who has established a reputation of poor credit either professionally or financially will fall into one of two categories. First category: he/she will need a ‘co-signer’ to vouch for his/her character with regards to either employment or financial opportunities. Second category: he/she will be denied most employment or loan opportunities that are independently applied for.
Wouldn’t you much rather rely solely upon your own credit in these instances? Today, I encourage you the begin cleaning up both your personal and financial reputation so that you can control your own fate. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Thursday, August 10, 2006
Word of the Day - by C-Luv
Controversial - marked by or capable of arousing controversy.
Alright brothas and sistas, its time for some adult conversation. I’m fairly certain that if I conducted a poll, most of us would agree that the ‘N word’ is extremely controversial. Some folk despise the word; others use the term very loosely. Since the word has such a powerful impact, particularly on the African American race, I felt it was worth addressing. A comedian once argued the point that when used craftily, the ‘N word’ can add humor, emphasis, and/or insult to a given comment.
Here is a supporting example of two very similar statements using a different choice of words...
1) "Man, those jokers sure know how to ruin a good time..."
2) "Man, every time black people are having a nice time, ignorant Ni&&ers phukk it up..."
The comedian actually has a pretty valid argument, right? Even though the latter comment was emphatic and somewhat insulting, it was still slightly humorous. Crazy right? No, that's Bull-crap. It is only a word, people.
The concise arrangement of these six letters together may very well comprise one of the most controversial words in the English dictionary. The word Ni&&er can often be as offensive to non-blacks as it is to some Blacks. Conversely, the ‘N word’ has been embraced by many blacks. At the end of the day, it's just six little letters. If we separated the letters we'd end up with an I, an E, two Gs, an N, and an R. Sounds pretty innocent to me. Whether you agree or disagree with the usage of the word is completely your prerogative. What's important to remember is that if we did not empower these six otherwise innocent letters, the word would have a far less controversial stigma.
It's only a word, brothas and sistahs... regardless if you decided to remove it from your vocabulary completely or use it at your own discretion. Today, I encourage you to empower objects of substance such as yourself, your community, and your family. Let's take back the authority that we’ve given to mere words. Remember, sticks and stones may break my bones, but names are merely the combination of otherwise innocent letters. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Alright brothas and sistas, its time for some adult conversation. I’m fairly certain that if I conducted a poll, most of us would agree that the ‘N word’ is extremely controversial. Some folk despise the word; others use the term very loosely. Since the word has such a powerful impact, particularly on the African American race, I felt it was worth addressing. A comedian once argued the point that when used craftily, the ‘N word’ can add humor, emphasis, and/or insult to a given comment.
Here is a supporting example of two very similar statements using a different choice of words...
1) "Man, those jokers sure know how to ruin a good time..."
2) "Man, every time black people are having a nice time, ignorant Ni&&ers phukk it up..."
The comedian actually has a pretty valid argument, right? Even though the latter comment was emphatic and somewhat insulting, it was still slightly humorous. Crazy right? No, that's Bull-crap. It is only a word, people.
The concise arrangement of these six letters together may very well comprise one of the most controversial words in the English dictionary. The word Ni&&er can often be as offensive to non-blacks as it is to some Blacks. Conversely, the ‘N word’ has been embraced by many blacks. At the end of the day, it's just six little letters. If we separated the letters we'd end up with an I, an E, two Gs, an N, and an R. Sounds pretty innocent to me. Whether you agree or disagree with the usage of the word is completely your prerogative. What's important to remember is that if we did not empower these six otherwise innocent letters, the word would have a far less controversial stigma.
It's only a word, brothas and sistahs... regardless if you decided to remove it from your vocabulary completely or use it at your own discretion. Today, I encourage you to empower objects of substance such as yourself, your community, and your family. Let's take back the authority that we’ve given to mere words. Remember, sticks and stones may break my bones, but names are merely the combination of otherwise innocent letters. Be blessed.
Corey R.
Wednesday, August 09, 2006
Word of the Day - by C-Luv
Karma - A Hindu/Buddhist belief that the total effect of a person's actions and conduct during the successive phases of the person's existence will ultimately determine the person's destiny.
Have you ever heard the saying "what goes around comes around"? Or how about the 'hood' adage "when you do dirt, you get dirt"? Some folk believe that there is a direct correlation between our services and our rewards. Has some good deed that you performed (out of the pure kindness of your heart) ever materialized into an unexpected blessing for you? Of course it has.
Life just wouldn't be fair if karma didn't work both ways, now would it? Just as good begets good; our negative deeds will surely reap negative consequences. Think back on the occasion(s) when you may have taken someone’s emotions for granted, mistreated/misled someone who genuinely loved you, or betrayed the confidence of a significant other. Nine times out of ten, if these have been your habits, you've spent countless hours wondering if and when some abused individual would seek retribution for your wrong doings.
Self-imposed mental anguish is but one form of negative karma. The worst case scenario is that you'll actually have to reap what you’ve sewn. Statistics prove that most offenders are incapable of enduring the havoc that they dish out.
If you've been fortunate enough not to come full circle with your own transgressions, here's your formal warning. Today, I implore you to start treating others like you want to be treated because as sure as Friday follows Thursday, eventually karma will catch up to you. Be blessed.
Have you ever heard the saying "what goes around comes around"? Or how about the 'hood' adage "when you do dirt, you get dirt"? Some folk believe that there is a direct correlation between our services and our rewards. Has some good deed that you performed (out of the pure kindness of your heart) ever materialized into an unexpected blessing for you? Of course it has.
Life just wouldn't be fair if karma didn't work both ways, now would it? Just as good begets good; our negative deeds will surely reap negative consequences. Think back on the occasion(s) when you may have taken someone’s emotions for granted, mistreated/misled someone who genuinely loved you, or betrayed the confidence of a significant other. Nine times out of ten, if these have been your habits, you've spent countless hours wondering if and when some abused individual would seek retribution for your wrong doings.
Self-imposed mental anguish is but one form of negative karma. The worst case scenario is that you'll actually have to reap what you’ve sewn. Statistics prove that most offenders are incapable of enduring the havoc that they dish out.
If you've been fortunate enough not to come full circle with your own transgressions, here's your formal warning. Today, I implore you to start treating others like you want to be treated because as sure as Friday follows Thursday, eventually karma will catch up to you. Be blessed.
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