"You will know"
How many times have you heard the expression "when its right, you just sorta know"? Personally, I think I've heard it at least a couple dozen times in my life. This expression has generally been the rebuttal to questions regarding “the ideal” romantic relationship. I've endured my fair share of unsuccessful relationships, in the past. I fully understand that each of my former relationships have been monumental in positively altering my perspective with regards to future relationships. I'm thankful for every relationship that I've been privileged to experience. However, one question still remains buried deep in the back of my mind. How will I know when I've found "my ideal companion"?
Whenever I've inquired from experienced folk (married couples), I've always received the same response. They must've studied the same manual because they all seem to say "you'll just sorta know". I tend to walk away feeling none the wiser after having conversed with these supposedly knowledgeable folk. So what I really need to know is what the heck does "you'll just sorta know" mean?
I imagine what they're trying to tell me is that when I finally meet "The One"; all the things that I've formerly fought tooth and nail for will fall right in place. No longer will I feel the need to retreat following a couple days interaction with my significant other. No longer will I have to struggle to establish an open yet respectful line of communication. No longer will I have to wonder whether she considers my mental and emotional well-being when she makes decisions.
Perhaps these soothsayers mean to say that smiling will occur without effort when thoughts of her cross through my mind. Maybe they are trying to tell me that the concept of working over-time hours will become an idea of the past because that will conflict with our cuddle time. Then again… they might be trying to tell me that all of my "I" notions will become "We" suggestions. Whatever it is they’ve been attempting to say... I pray to God that He provides clarity so that I “just sorta know it” when it comes my way. Be blessed.
Corey R.
7 comments:
I would tend to agree with the "you'll just sorta know" comment....but has anybody out there (besides me)ever thought they knew, but it turned out you had the wrong answer? You follwed the rules, worked through all the steps, even went back and checked your work...but the s@!% was just wrong?!
No freakin' kidding. I totally agree. "They" also tend to say, "yes, you'll make wrong choices but don't give up". OH, ok. For me, for now...I am going to work on myself....and then maybe I'll get a dog...and if that goes well, I'll consider the 2 legged kind... ;)
This post brings to mind the one you did on overthinking things. I think this area is one where men are the kings of overthinking. Sure there are exceptions to every rule but, I think that when a man is ready to find 'the one' he doesn't usually have much trouble. When you're ready, your thought pattern, habits and decision making processes change completely.
In our quest to find "the one" we oftentimes forget one simple thing. Preparation. Just think many of us would not purchase a home, vehicle, or pet without taking the prepatory steps to ensure that we could financially take care of these items. So why do we so often ask for a mate before preparing ourselves to emotionally and mentally to care for them? It's just my opinion but I think that God will clearly reveal "the one" for each of us when we become "the one" ourselves. I'm pretty sure God intended for each of his children to get "the one" they so rightfully deserve.
AC
I think AC said it the best!
I would like to thank PB, AC, Anonymous, and ME for lending their thoughts regarding yesterday's blog. Please bear in mind that my blogs are not always literal. I express notions with the intent to arouse ideas, thoughts, and/or responses from my audience. I'm flattered that you all have taken the time to give your introspective analyses.
Corey R
I'm the first anonymous post above with one final thought: you can't love someone else until you love yourself. :) (and yes, AC said it best, about becoming the one ourselves).
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