“Shall we dance? - Pt II”
Note: Dance Etiquette Tips from yesterday and today’s WOD appear courtesy of www.swdance.com
Okay ladies, as promised, here are a few key pointers that should help you glide across the dance floor of life…
Dance Etiquette Tip 1. If he's a beginner be patient with him, he's still learning.
C-Luv Parallel - Ladies, please recognize that it is extremely difficult for brother's to admit to not being experienced in any department. If you ever want your man to be comfortable taking lessons from you; then you have to be sensitive to the male ego as he struggles to come up to speed.
DET2. No talking to him while he's learning a new pattern.
CLP - Sisters, this rule is vital. You must understand that effective communication means knowing when to strike up a conversation. Sometimes, silence is golden.
DET3. Do not EVER compare your partner to the teacher. The instructor does this as a profession; of course he can lead you.
CLP - Celebrate your man's positive attributes and support him as he strives to strengthen his weaknesses. You partnered with this man for a reason(s). Don't compare him to the guy you left behind. Besides, if your ex was that great a dancer; the two of you would still be two stepping, in harmony.
DET4. Do not refuse to dance with one gentleman and then accept a dance with another for the same dance. Sit it out. He may become a better dancer, but he will never ask you again. You may miss out in the long run.
CLP – Tact is always vital when dealing with others. You have the right to be selective about choosing a partner. That’s your prerogative. Understand however that men have feelings too. So let the brother off easy. What if the dancing shoe were on the other foot? Wouldn’t you appreciate a cordial declination?
DET5. As hard as this may be, keep time with your partner. Yes, even if he is off-time. It will be much easier to follow his lead, and he will eventually learn the correct rhythm. Remember, he has much more to learn than you do, and your patience will be greatly appreciated, perhaps even rewarded later.
CLP - Ladies, it's obvious when you're the more experienced partner in the relationship. Learn to resist the urge to strut your stuff, from time to time. Playing the naive or novice role is the equivalent of stroking your man's ego… plus it’s sexy too.
DET6. In your effort to be light, you may give him "puppy dog" hands and spaghetti arms. Don't; this gives him nothing to lead with. He needs tone in your arms and hands to move you.
CLP - Certainly you're capable of taking the lead. Unfortunately that's not the role that was designed for the female partner. Just as a man has to understand what it means to be a qualified leader; a woman must be able to recognize that she is partnered with a bonafide leader. Relax; your leader is willing to consider your input when it comes to navigating y’alls course.
Oh snap… the deejay’s playin’ my song…“Step to the left, step to the right, spin around and break it down tonight”. Can a brotha get a dance partner? Be blessed.
Corey R.
2 comments:
Blah,blah,blah, Mr. C-Luv. Too many men just wanna twirl you around on the dance floor, work up a little sweat, then move on to the next one. Men need to learn to sit out a few dances (or at least limit themselves to a two-step)if they aren't really ready to dance.
Thank you for your feedback. That's quite an interesting perspective that you've provided for the brothers to digest. Hopefully the gentlemen are taking a mental note.
Corey R.
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