11 March 09 - WOD

ChAsInG dA SuN...

I can vividly recall being a young dude, riding in the back seat of my mom's Toyota Celica. I would pull my plastic sunshades snuggly down over my eyes and firmly affix my determined stare towards the sun. It was fascinating to me that as we drove upon extended stretches of highway, the sun appeared to be racing against our car. I use to think that eventually we'd catch up to the sun. Somehow, that magnificent ball of fire managed to keep us at a distance well beyond arm's reach. What I initially perceived as a race had ultimately transcended into an all out chase. Stay with me y'all, I'm going somewhere with this; I promise!

Fast forward 20 years and find me in hot pursuit yet again. Only this time, I'm chasing the attention of my estranged ex-girlfriend. You see, just a few months prior ... we'd officially severed ties and went our separate ways. There's an old adage that says "an idle mind is the devil's workplace". Spending excess time alone with nothing but TIME to think had left me feeling the urge to rekindle those old flames. To this day, I'm still not sure whether my notions of reconciliation were prompted by the spirit of loneliness or whether I sincerely wanted to give our expired relationship one last ditch effort. That's neither here nor there. Ultimately, I attempted to force my way back in the door. Except just then, my ex wasn't having any part of that idea.

I learned an important lesson during that phase in my life. I learned that while I was involved knee deep in a race against time, trying to salvage my ship-wrecked relationship. My ex-SIG was determined that what she needed most was time and space. Eventually, it occurred to me that I was on a wild goose chase. Talk about counter-productive! Still not pickin' up what I'm puttin' down, huh? Okay, lemme give it to y'all on a dummy's level. Its often in your best effort to back off when your love interest tells you that they need time and space to map out their next move. Crowding their space will only push them further away. If you don't get anything else out of my message, please gEt tHiS nExT pOinT ... we don't live long enough to experience all of life's hard lessons for ourselves. It is advantageous to learn from the experiences of others, as often as possible. Take it from me or cHaSe dA sUn 4eVeR mOrE.

Corey R.