21 Dec - WOD

"Biggup!!"

Season's Greetings all. As yet another year draws to a close, I am compelled to acknowledge each of you for the role you have played in providing a platform for me to express views, make suggestions, provoke thoughts, and encourage minds. You all are truly paramount in my life. For those of you who have challenged my views, I thank you. For those of you who have inspired my thoughts, I salute you. For those of you who have sent an email or left a comment stating that you found value in one of my entries, I appreciate you. For those of you who silently yet consistently visited my blog to get your heapin' helping... I value you as well. It has been my pleasure to have you constructively critique my work. I hope that you have the desire to stay plugged in. 2007 promises to provide even more insightful, humorous, controversial, colorful, and creative Words of the day... uh week... okay maybe month... depending on my work-load. Thank you all for providing feedback throughout 2006. May God's grace and favor continue to shine on each of you. Happy Holidays. Be blessed.

Corey R.

13 Dec - WOD

"Lamb Chops"

Anyone who talks to me on even a semi-regular basis can probably attest to the fact that I often prepare the same meal for dinner. My feast of choice is baked chicken, rice, and some random vegetable. I enjoy chicken and rice but I have to admit that I mainly cook this combo because of its lack of required attention. I am able to bake the chicken, boil the rice, and steam the veggies while simultaneously receiving incoming tech support calls (my P/T job). At this point, I have it down to a science because I've been doing it for so long. So you see, I tend to prepare the same meal each night because it offers a combination of convenience and familiarity. Somewhere along the line, I guess I managed to settle into a comfortable little routine.

Something quite interesting occurred last night while I was grocery shopping. My intentions were to pick up my usual items; chicken wings (of course), rice, ground turkey, taco fixings, oatmeal and fruit punch. Just as I arrived at the meat department, I was greeted by a fellow shopper who emphatically pointed out the "meatiest lamb chops he'd ever laid eyes on". Now lamb chops are far from my normal choice of vittles but good ole Purcell (that’s what he said his name was) had a valid point. Those chops looked absolutely divine. So I said what the heck and tossed a pack into my cart. Just then, I started to feel a little frisky so instead of regular flavored rice, I opted for a box of red beans and rice. I purchased my groceries and headed to the house to get dinner started before logging into the tech support phone queue.

Forty-five minutes later, I enjoyed the best home cooked meal (prepared by my own hands) that I've eaten in years. I was pleasantly surprised to find out that I really have a knack for cooking something other than baked Chicken. I never would have discovered that talent if I hadn't first opened my mind to the idea of trying something new. Life is funny in that it imitates art. In my case, the chosen art form was food preparation. Imagine how many talents you've yet to discover simply because you have not been open to trying something new. I challenge you to trade in your chicken for lamb chops, at least once. There's a 50/50 chance that you'll be pleased with the outcome. You've got to like those odds. Be blessed.

Corey R.

12 Dec - WOD

“Super-celebratory”

Have you ever noticed the way many of our kinfolk like to show boat, glamorize, and over-sensationalize a victory or success? Don't get me wrong, I enjoy watching a touchdown celebration in the back of the end-zone or a high five after an ‘alley-oop’ dunk, as much as the next guy. What I refuse to condone is the manner in which our young entertainers and athletes; regardless of how many awards they've already won... hardly ever tend to display any grace when they are announced as winners. There are a few exceptions to this rule but the vast majority act as if they had no business winning in the first place.

I do not mean to imply that one should not be appreciative of his/her victories and successes. I'm simply stating that success does not normally occur without preparation. Therefore, even if it is your first official victory of a given nature, the fact that you've prepared yourself to eventually be in such a position should help to make it a less surreal experience. I fully expect those individuals who are fortunate enough to occupy the winner's circle to celebrate. However, there is a fine line between celebrating and gloating. In my opinion the boisterous/obnoxious antics are way over-rated.

Call me old school but I will never understand the purpose of bringing a 40 person entourage on stage to receive one plaque. That's over-kill, in my opinion. I always stress to my son that he should conduct himself as though he fully expects to be standing in the winner's circle. I constantly remind him that as long as he continues to prepare properly and puts forth the required amount of effort, he can achieve success in every field of human endeavor. I'll never forget a famous quote that a former basketball coach once told my team after we won our first championship. He sat the team down and told us that we should "conduct ourselves as if we've been here before". From that point on, it was easier to display a more poised persona when I made a clutch free-throw shot, hit a homerun, or won a championship game. There is something to be said about the gracious victor. What's the point of being a winner if you still come across as a "loser"? Be blessed.

Corey R.

5 Dec - WOD

"You will know"

How many times have you heard the expression "when its right, you just sorta know"? Personally, I think I've heard it at least a couple dozen times in my life. This expression has generally been the rebuttal to questions regarding “the ideal” romantic relationship. I've endured my fair share of unsuccessful relationships, in the past. I fully understand that each of my former relationships have been monumental in positively altering my perspective with regards to future relationships. I'm thankful for every relationship that I've been privileged to experience. However, one question still remains buried deep in the back of my mind. How will I know when I've found "my ideal companion"?

Whenever I've inquired from experienced folk (married couples), I've always received the same response. They must've studied the same manual because they all seem to say "you'll just sorta know". I tend to walk away feeling none the wiser after having conversed with these supposedly knowledgeable folk. So what I really need to know is what the heck does "you'll just sorta know" mean?

I imagine what they're trying to tell me is that when I finally meet "The One"; all the things that I've formerly fought tooth and nail for will fall right in place. No longer will I feel the need to retreat following a couple days interaction with my significant other. No longer will I have to struggle to establish an open yet respectful line of communication. No longer will I have to wonder whether she considers my mental and emotional well-being when she makes decisions.

Perhaps these soothsayers mean to say that smiling will occur without effort when thoughts of her cross through my mind. Maybe they are trying to tell me that the concept of working over-time hours will become an idea of the past because that will conflict with our cuddle time. Then again… they might be trying to tell me that all of my "I" notions will become "We" suggestions. Whatever it is they’ve been attempting to say... I pray to God that He provides clarity so that I “just sorta know it” when it comes my way. Be blessed.

Corey R.

29 Nov - WOD

"Second Childhood"

Every now and again, I have to step back and marvel at how much fun I have watching my son grow into a budding young champion. Not just a champion in the usual sense of the word. He’s a champion by virtue of academics, uniqueness, charisma, and athletics as well. Much of my childhood is a blur, at this point in my life. My mother often reminds me that I was quite the rambunctious little guy. She tells me that she used to have to put a child's harness and leash around my waist to ensure that I didn't wander off. I see the same characteristics in my son. He's such an independent young man that he often wants to explore well beyond the imposed boundaries. I admire his passion to discover new horizons as well as his fearless nature. Since I can't clearly recall what I was like at age seven, I often wonder if he gets his boldness from his Dad.

My son is literally a mini me... only he’s much sharper. He's faster, more athletic, better looking, a much better dancer, and smarter than I was at his age. I wonder if he knows how much of a fan he has in me. I find myself laughing as he sings and dances in the back seat of my car. Many times, our conversations amaze me. Although I maintain a poker face; I often am quite astonished by his thoughts, ideas, and reactions at such an early age. As I watch from the sidelines, I can't help but celebrate his competitive play on both the gridiron and hardwood. I cry on the inside as I watch him agonize over a dropped pass, a missed shot, or a defeat. He dreads losing. I know full well where he get that competitive nature from. I too was a sore loser... still am, actually.

There have been days where I felt like parenthood was the toughest job on earth. As I watch my lil man flourish into a young Prince, it feels like God is giving me a front row seat at a panoramic rerun of my own youth. I don't have childhood memories of scoring my first touchdown at age seven, making my first shot on a regulation basketball goal at age five, or out dancing all the grown-ups at a wedding reception at age six... mainly because I never did any of those things. Glory be to God, I know what all of those accomplishments feel like firsthand, thanks to my young clone. Children can either keep us young or make us feel really old. I can’t speak for others but my son makes me feel like I'm in my second childhood and I swear it couldn't be sweeter. Be blessed.

Corey R.

27 Nov - WOD

"Who cares?"

In order to fully realize the subconscious stigma that is typical of the average U.S. citizen, one might actually need to venture beyond North American borders. I found it astounding to observe how the most affluent country in the world (United States) also holds the title as the country with the lowest self-esteem. Think about it; only in America are the natives preoccupied with how we are perceived by others. In many tourist cities, countries, and continents afar… the natives appear far more comfortable in their own skin. I've made a conscious effort to observe the culture and behaviors of the natives of each destination that I've visited outside of U.S soil. Interestingly enough, citizens of foreign countries seem to possess far more self-love than the typical U.S. citizen.

Allow me to provide a perfect example. Have you ever noticed how American's are self-conscious about the type of swimwear we choose? American women who feel that they are overweight will wear a bathing suit with a wrap skirt, or a tee shirt to cover up, while on the beach. Similarly an American man, who feels that he is too thin, will likely choose to wear a tank top and long shorts. Our foreign counterparts are exactly the opposite. I've observed through my travels that regardless of shape or size, most non-U.S. citizens are comfortable donning a two-piece thong bikini and/or Speedo trunks; no wrap skirt, no towel, no baggy tee shirt, no tank top, and no aqua shoes required.

What has caused us to place these self-imposed limitations upon ourselves? Who says that we have to be a perfect ten in order to be comfortable and free to expose our true selves? I've realized that one of our biggest character flaws is the fact that we care too much about what others think of us. Interestingly enough, people who genuinely love themselves usually have no problem getting others to follow suit. The way I see it is … as long as we continue to love ourselves, we need not waste valuable time with the preoccupation of others’ opinions of us? Be blessed.

Corey R.

10 Nov - WOD

“Shall we dance? - Pt II”

Note: Dance Etiquette Tips from yesterday and today’s WOD appear courtesy of www.swdance.com

Okay ladies, as promised, here are a few key pointers that should help you glide across the dance floor of life…

Dance Etiquette Tip 1. If he's a beginner be patient with him, he's still learning.

C-Luv Parallel - Ladies, please recognize that it is extremely difficult for brother's to admit to not being experienced in any department. If you ever want your man to be comfortable taking lessons from you; then you have to be sensitive to the male ego as he struggles to come up to speed.

DET2. No talking to him while he's learning a new pattern.

CLP - Sisters, this rule is vital. You must understand that effective communication means knowing when to strike up a conversation. Sometimes, silence is golden.

DET3. Do not EVER compare your partner to the teacher. The instructor does this as a profession; of course he can lead you.

CLP - Celebrate your man's positive attributes and support him as he strives to strengthen his weaknesses. You partnered with this man for a reason(s). Don't compare him to the guy you left behind. Besides, if your ex was that great a dancer; the two of you would still be two stepping, in harmony.

DET4. Do not refuse to dance with one gentleman and then accept a dance with another for the same dance. Sit it out. He may become a better dancer, but he will never ask you again. You may miss out in the long run.

CLP – Tact is always vital when dealing with others. You have the right to be selective about choosing a partner. That’s your prerogative. Understand however that men have feelings too. So let the brother off easy. What if the dancing shoe were on the other foot? Wouldn’t you appreciate a cordial declination?

DET5. As hard as this may be, keep time with your partner. Yes, even if he is off-time. It will be much easier to follow his lead, and he will eventually learn the correct rhythm. Remember, he has much more to learn than you do, and your patience will be greatly appreciated, perhaps even rewarded later.

CLP - Ladies, it's obvious when you're the more experienced partner in the relationship. Learn to resist the urge to strut your stuff, from time to time. Playing the naive or novice role is the equivalent of stroking your man's ego… plus it’s sexy too.

DET6. In your effort to be light, you may give him "puppy dog" hands and spaghetti arms. Don't; this gives him nothing to lead with. He needs tone in your arms and hands to move you.

CLP - Certainly you're capable of taking the lead. Unfortunately that's not the role that was designed for the female partner. Just as a man has to understand what it means to be a qualified leader; a woman must be able to recognize that she is partnered with a bonafide leader. Relax; your leader is willing to consider your input when it comes to navigating y’alls course.

Oh snap… the deejay’s playin’ my song…“Step to the left, step to the right, spin around and break it down tonight”. Can a brotha get a dance partner? Be blessed.

Corey R.

9 Nov - WOD

"Shall we dance? - Part 1"

I have long since drawn a parallel between ballroom dancing and acceptable male vs. female interaction. Today's WOD will hopefully depict (for my brothers) the similarities between the two. I conducted a little research to support my theory and I found this list of dance tips and etiquette that should prove helpful for any gentleman.

Dance Etiquette Tip 1. Hold her hand and lead her onto the dance floor. Don't grip her hand, and don't use her as your bumper at ANY time. This means while walking on & off the floor, and especially while you're dancing!

C-Luv Parallel - Men who are blessed to walk hand in hand with a special woman have been presented with a precious gift. In honoring your Queen, you need to be mindful of valuing her personal space. You are not authorized to make space invasions.

DET2. Lead her off the dance floor, and return her to where you found her. She will be so surprised at these few moments of courtesy, she will remember you.

CLP - Fellas, you will eventually come to terms with the idea that even though she did not turn out to be your soul mate; it is still your responsibility to ensure that upon your departure from that women's life, you leave her in an equal or better position than when you entered into her life. Good men should build not destroy.

DET3. Lead her, move her, it's OK.

CLP - Gentlemen, in order for a true Queen to follow your lead; you must first prove yourself to be a worthy King.

DET4. Don't grip her shoulder blade. That's not what it was made for.

CLP - Give her room to flow freely. She knows who she is as well as whose she is. Real men don't have to keep their woman on lock down.

DET5. While she's doing a turn, wait until you see the white's of her eyes before you bring down her arm. She's vulnerable while turning.

CLP - It's imperative to provide a sense of security for the special woman in your life. Let her know that you're durable enough to support her even when she feels most vulnerable.

DET6. Do not EVER compare her to the instructor. Your instructor can follow because she's a professional.

CLP - Each woman is her own person. Comparing your woman to a former love interest is never a good look. Appreciate her uniqueness. Applaud her talents. Accept her imperfections. She’s likely had to do the same for you.

DET7. The lady ALWAYS determines how close you get. You may not get another dance with her if you insist on body contact.

CLP - Reflect back to your drivers education course. Keep your hands in 10 o'clock and 2 o’clock formation until you get accustomed to driving such a luxury vehicle. Always maintain a safe trailing distance. You never know when you will be required to slam on your brakes. Seriously though, being a good leader means first understanding how to follow. She’ll let you know when it’s okay to encroach. Wait for her signal.

DET8. You are responsible for the lady's safety. Do not perform a move that sends her into the wall or into another couple. Ladies' heels are very sharp, no one wants to be stepped on or bumped into.

CLP - Bruh, it's your duty to make that woman feel secure at all times. Women shoulder the weight of the world; most of the time. The last thing she should ever have to wonder is whether she's secure in your arms. (figuratively and literally)

Now, without further ado… “separate, bring it back… now lemme see U do the Luv slide”. I’ll be back to holla at my ladies tomorrow. Be blessed.

Corey R.

8 Nov - WOD

"Over Think-ative"

Are you one of those folk who tend to over analyze every incident? Do you place more emphasis on the potential outcome of an event than you do on enjoying the actual experience? Do you oftentimes find it difficult to relinquish control over a given situation? Why can't you simply "Let it do what it do, Baby"? If these are attributes that you possess, I think it's safe to say that you might be a tad bit "over think-ative". That's a phrase I created to describe individuals like you who simply think too much.

I'm sure some of you will argue that it's important to be observant of your surrounding circumstances. I whole-heartedly agree with that statement. There is a significant difference however between being observant and being obsessive compulsive. As adults we should all be cognizant of making well thought out decisions. After all, responsibility is supposed to be a prerequisite for adulthood. At the same time, it's super important to take full advantage of those priceless moments in life that simply take our breath away.

So many times we question whether a good situation is "too good to be true". That is an absolute insane thought, in my opinion. Many of us wait an eternity and never experience bliss. I don't know about you but I'm not greedy so I'll even accept temporary bliss. Why on Earth would I ever question or over analyze any situation that offers exactly what my heart has always desired? Here's an idea... perhaps one of you "over think-ative" folk can answer that question on my behalf. In the meanwhile, I'll be somewhere enjoying my tailor made slice of ecstasy. Be blessed.

Corey R.

7 Nov - WOD

"Chicken and Waffles"

If I recall correctly... 10 years ago was the approximate first time I'd heard of the popular Los Angeles restaurant, Roscoe’s Chicken and Waffles. At the time, I remember thinking to myself "that’s a strange combination". Surely I'd heard of fried chicken and French fries or even sausage, eggs and waffles but never had I imagined combining poultry with a breakfast battercake. Now, merely a decade later, many others have adopted this idea. Today, chicken and waffles are as commonplace a combination as beer nuts and bar stools.

It's interesting the way life often imitates art. Look at some of the other unlikely combinations that we've witnessed over the years... there's Eminem and Elton John, denim jeans and sports coats, pineapples and pizza, and we can't forget about Jermaine Dupri and Ms. Jackson. Amazingly enough, we've grown accustomed to all of these combinations as a result of having witnessed them on a consistent basis. One thing that all these pairs have in common is that they've blazed unchartered trails. Isn't it amazing how all of these tandems, which began with their fair share of skeptics, have prospered into highly successful collaborations?

Can you imagine if we all applied the chicken and waffles concept to our lives by venturing to do something outside of the norm? Most folk stay true to their comfort zone. Many of us are hesitant to journey beyond our preset boundaries for fear that others will perceive us in an unacceptable fashion. We often limit our own potential when we fail to take stabs at being unique, uncommon or bleeding edge. The next time you decide to conform to the status quo as opposed to partnering with some innovative concept; I offer the following example as incentive: Once upon a time Kadeem Hardison a.k.a "Dwayne Wayne" decided to push the envelope and ask the very lovely and talented Ms. Chante Moore out on a date. One year later she recorded the song "Chante's got a man", in his honor. Colossal dreams sprout from big visions. So now, would you like Waffles with that order? Or are you going to simply settle for being a big Chicken for the remainder of your life? Be blessed.

Corey R.

1 Nov - WOD

"Sign Language"

Back in grade school, I can recall day dreaming in class for the duration of the sign language portion of the lesson. Today, the ability to read sign language is a lost art. There are many days when I wonder how much better equipped at reading signals I might be today if only I paid closer attention back then. Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you had to rely on your ability to feel a person out or to pick up on their subliminal messages? It can prove to be quite a challenge to accurately interpret signals given off by a member of the opposite sex.

For example, have you ever gone out on a first date and although you may have felt like you'd made an obvious love connection with your companion, you weren't exactly sure whether he/she felt the same way? If you've experienced a similar situation then it's likely that you've also undergone that awkward moment which occurs between the pause in your conversation and the point where you decide whether you'll actually lean in for the first kiss. 

Regardless of age, situations like this always leave us searching for signals. In our subconscious we're thinking "I hope she meets me half way when I lean in for this kiss". Or perhaps we've wondered something as simple as, "ok, we/ve made eye contact sooo should I go over and introduce myself, now?" Wouldn't it be great to have a built in radar which allowed us to pick up on the subliminal signals of the opposite sex? Unfortunately that's unrealistic so in the interim how about making it easy for the next gal or guy and just let them know what's on your mind? Be blessed.
Corey R.

27 Oct - WOD

"Fasteners"

What are the key components that assist you to hold it together (mentally) when it feels as if life is tugging at your psychological fibers? Some of us have confidants or loved ones who magically seem to know just what to say or do to keep us from becoming completely unraveled. Let's face it though… some of us have issues that we still have yet to confront for ourselves. These are the types of concerns that are even too personal to share with those nearest to us. Sometimes we have a fear of being judged. Other times we simply want to keep certain details as far removed from our mind as possible and we realize that talking about them won’t allow us to do so. The fact of the matter is until we’ve learned to face those hurts, concerns, and haunting past experiences... we will remain unfastened.

Have you ever paid attention to what happens to an article of clothing when it is unfastened? Notice that there is a temporary sense of relief initially when you unfasten a piece of clothing because some body part can now breathe more freely. Eventually though, that item begins to slip off and unless you’re actually ready to remove it altogether, you now have the daunting task of tending to that item every few seconds to keep it from falling completely off.

Our mental baggage works pretty much the same way. We can unfasten it from the forefront of our mind for temporary relief but eventually we’ll end up exerting a tremendous amount of energy to keep it from falling out again. Fortunately for all of us, there are professional consultants who can help us to confront our previous scars, voids, and frustrations. You don’t have to be a “basket case” to seek professional consultation but you could end up as one if you don’t. Begin to confront your past fears and/or pains so that you can be fully fastened once more. Enjoy your weekend. Be blessed.

Corey R.

25 Oct - WOD

“Bumper Stickers”

Each of us wears an invisible badge. Our character, demeanor, presentation, habits, and personality are all factors that advertise subliminal messages about us. We have to be mindful that in many instances, our actions, words and deeds serve as personal billboards to a world of onlookers. What are you advertising, these days? Do you present yourself in a manner that conveys positive marketing or are you exhibiting detrimental promotion for yourself? Nothing endorses an individual quite like his/her public persona. Pay attention to the undertones of your conduct because you never know when someone is reading your bumper stickers. Be blessed.

Corey R.

23 Oct - WOD

"Expiration Date"

In life, sometimes we tend to drag our feet when it comes to addressing certain issues or concerns. We have a tendency to not place as high a priority on things that don’t come with an expiration date. Bills are prevalent mainly because we realize that after the due date is exceeded, additional fees and compounded interest is applied to the original bill. As a result, we tend to have a very keen sense of urgency as it applies to expiration dates associated with our monthly bills.

Some of us have an outstanding obligation to a loved one but since it didn’t come affixed to an expiration date, we haven’t made an assertive attempt at reimbursement. Others of us have postponed the progression of a relationship indefinitely. You know full well that he/she has a strong desire to be more than just “friends” but since there is no expiration date attached, you continue to extend the commitment process for your own benefit.

Where do you draw the line? Don’t you deserve to be taken seriously as well? After all, shouldn't your concerns garner at least the same urgency as a Macy's department store bill? Here's a thought... perhaps it’s time you attached an expiration date to the things that matter to you. Similarly, there ought to be an associated penalty for overdue response to your concerns. Give it a try. See if this approach doesn’t yield better interest. It’s time that you expired your tolerant ways and received some form of return on your investment. Be blessed.

Corey R.

16 Oct -WOD

"Earth Tones"

Have you ever marveled at a particular individual’s ability to recognize those key subtleties that complement them best? Let's take for example the caramel complexioned sistah who understands that candy apple red lipstick does her absolutely no justice at all. So instead she applies a precise combination of bronze lip-gloss traced delicately in a soft mocha colored liner. It is important to note that this woman is not intimidated about venturing “outside the box”. On the contrary, she simply has a firm understanding of what best accentuates her persona.

I am what is referred to as an 'Earth Tonesie' guy. This implies that I'm partial to natural hues of brown, green, and crème. I've occasionally pushed the envelope and experimented with vivid colors but I realized very quickly that it behooves me to stay true to what naturally works well for me. I try to apply that exact same 'earth tone' ideology to life in general. I believe it's imperative for everyone to understand his/her own boundaries.

Surely we all know at least one individual who exerts far too much energy trying to become something or someone that he/she is simply incapable of being. For example, if your homeboy spent his entire life in the suburbs yet constantly claims to be “livin’ thug life”, do your friend a favor and tell ole’ boy to stay in his lane. Likewise ladies, if your best friend is a size 22 who likes to wear thongs and low cut jeans, somebody please, tell that sistah get back in her lane... surely she's swervin'.

Living in such an interestingly colorful world has helped me to develop an appreciation for folk who defer to doing their own natural (earth tone) thing. I am by no means trying to imply that there is no room for vivid folk too. I’m just saying if you have vivid plans; make sure that fluorescence is your “earth tone”. Be Blessed.

Corey R.

10 Oct - WOD

“New Shoes”

Do you have a favorite pair of old shoes that are far too raggedy to be worn (in public) anymore but simply too comfy to get rid of? Even though you may very well have a plethora of newer, fancier options, you prefer to reach way into the back corner of your closet and dig out your beloved pair. Old shoes are similar in nature to an old job or an old relationship. Let's keep it real; you know when you've maximized your potential in a given environment. Not to mention those old shoes have begun to smell like sweaty feet, by now. Perhaps it's time you stepped into a new pair of shoes. You deserve an upgrade. New shoes enhance your swagger. New shoes help put a little more pep in your step. Plus, haven’t you noticed …the right pair of new shoes can make an old shirt and old slacks look new too. Today, step out of your comfort zone and go shopping for new shoes. Be blessed.

Corey R.

9 Oct - WOD

"Wrapping Paper"

Have you ever paid attention to the attributes of wrapping paper? Wrapping paper is often used to decorate, enhance, cover, and conceal a gift. Have you ever noticed that wrapping paper itself (regardless of how decorative) has very little significance? For instance, if I purchase two identical pairs of socks then package one pair in Tiffany wrapping paper and the other pair in dollar store wrapping paper, the value of the socks still remains the same. Ultimately it's the gift inside the wrapping paper that is significant.

People have various forms of wrapping paper as well. What does your wrapping paper conceal? Do you think that your gift is more precious because of your choice of wrapping paper? Sometimes we mask our gifts behind insignificant items that we feel make them more valuable. Some folk barricade themselves behind fancy wrapping paper to hide the fact that they lack substance. Decorative wrapping paper (i.e. cars, houses, and various other material possessions) do not enhance your God given gift. It's only a matter of time before you'll be forced to rely on what's inside the fancy packaging. So, today let your gift be more substantial than the paper it's wrapped in. Be blessed.

Corey R.

5 Oct - WOD

“Mood Music”

Have you ever noticed that there seems to be a direct connection between music and mood? Think about it; your favorite ballad probably puts you in a warm, fuzzy state of mind… while your favorite up-tempo anthem likely makes you wanna hit the dance floor. Music has a subliminal affect on our mindset. Let’s face it… some of us could stand a bit more musical balance in our lives. One ‘krunk’ selection too many and some one could end up in a scuffle. On the other hand, one too many Sade tracks could land a person upside down in a ditch from falling asleep behind the wheel. Y’all know I ain’t lying.

When I'm feeling a little high strung, I find that a nice jazz CD by the likes of Mike Phillips, Kenny G, or Anita Baker puts me in a really relaxed mood. If I’m down in the dumps, the best of Stevie Wonder always lifts my spirits. It never fails. The very moment that I hear vintage classics like "That girl", "All I do is think about you", "Do I do", or "Overjoyed"... I'm right back on my high horse. You should give it a try; it could work wonders for you too. Today, I would like to encourage you to diversify your musical portfolio. It just might prove to be one of the best forms of therapy out there. Be blessed.

Corey R.

4 Oct - WOD

Declare - To make known or state clearly, esp. in explicit or formal terms: to declare one's position in a controversy.

Let's face it; some folk are simply passive in nature. However, just because you might choose to be non-confrontational does not mean that it's not necessary to speak up for yourself. In aggressive environments such as the work force, it is extremely essential to have an audible voice. "Closed mouths don't get fed". Be careful in your quest to avoid conflict to not get passed over or neglected. Sometime being overly patient and standing idly by can cause you to miss out on key opportunities. The name of the game is continual progress. Today, I encourage you to speak up for yourself. You too have something important to contribute to this world. Be blessed.

Corey R.

3 Oct - WOD

Novelty – The state or quality of being novel, new, or unique; newness: the novelty of a new job.

Have you ever noticed how “new stuff” has a way of reviving our spirits? Nothing gets us jump started quite like a new occupation, a new 'toy', or a new relationship. Interestingly enough, all things new eventually become old, standard, and customary. The challenge then becomes finding ways to resuscitate a declining endeavor. In order to refresh a situation, we have to first understand the factors that made it so attractive to us in its initial state.

My recommendation is that we need to be more cognizant of these captivating experiences, even while we're still in the midst of them. If we pay closer attention to our surroundings during our seasons of bliss, we will be able to better analyze what it is that keeps us engrossed in these situations in the first place. Gaining a proper understanding of what we find most appealing about a new encounter will afford us the opportunity to recreate such an environment, at a moments notice. Today, I encourage you to tap into your creative self. See if you can't renew a conventional situation. Be blessed.

Corey R.

2 Oct - WOD

Inspire - To give rise to, bring about, cause, etc.: a philosophy that inspired a revolution.

Wouldn't you agree that on occasion its quite an amazing feeling to be pushed, pulled, or stimulated beyond our customary standard of operation? Interestingly enough, I've realized that my creative juices flow better when I find inspiration via a personal goal or challenge. Conversely, I feel that I can therefore contribute complacency on my behalf to a lack of inspiration.

When we drift into spells of creative stagnation or sub-par performance, it's likely because we lack motivation. I truly believe that most people operate at a much higher standard of quality when they are driven by some motivating factor. Inspiration can be spawned through a vast array of circumstances. What is your flavor? Inspiration could be generated from something as simple as a reassuring smile from a stranger. Whatever it is that inspires you; it is imperative to never lose sight of that inspiration. When you stop being inspired, it's highly improbable that you will be able to inspire anyone else either. Today, I encourage you to seek new inspiration. After all, it's never a bad time for a creativity over-haul. Be blessed.

Corey R.

29 Sept - WOD

Retreat - A place of refuge, seclusion, or privacy.

It's practically inevitable... at some point, life just seems to beat down on us. I've found it extremely helpful and healthy to retreat to a calm, quiet, secluded location and just take a little time to ‘veg out’. Man was not designed to live life at a nonstop pace of 100+ miles per hour. Many of us are destined for ‘burnout’ if we don't learn to slow down and occasionally retreat from the rigors of life. Vacations are great but let's be real,... most of the time, we rip and run even while on vacation. It's important that we do the small things that help us to preserve our sanity and good health. Today, take time out to plan an intimate retreat. Don’t fret; work, bills, stress, and fatigue will “catch you up on old times” when you return. Have a wonderful weekend. Be blessed.

Corey R.

28 Sept - WOD

Sensation - A mental or physical feeling, esp. a state of excited feeling.

I feel pretty confident in assuming that at some point in our lives we have all experienced the sensations of being both uncomfortably hot and extremely cold. Some of us may have stubbed a toe or banged a "funny bone" and as a result experienced a painful sensation. In my opinion however, nothing compares to the 'tingling' sensation associated with love.

I sometimes reflect back to my very own 'spine tingling' encounter. Have you ever had a companion who sent tingles down your spine with an innocent touch of his/her hands? At the time, I had no idea exactly how rare that sensation would become. As I grow older, it becomes evident that as important as any of the various other qualities that I look for in a companion is the presence of that tingle.

If you've found a companion who gives you chills, butterflies, and/or makes you feel all giddy inside; good for you!!! Cherish every single moment of this sensation. Not every situation promises to be as fulfilling. Hey, is it just me or does today seem like a great day to get your 'tingle' on? Be blessed.

Corey R.

27 Sept -WOD

Manipulate - To influence or manage shrewdly or deviously: He manipulated public opinion in his favor.

Let's face it, at some point in our lives, many of us have either been a manipulator or have allowed others to manipulate us. People tend to have different perspectives about what constitutes the act of manipulation. My personal belief is whenever a person contrives an expected outcome well in advance of soliciting a service from another person, they are being manipulative.

Let's take for example the single woman who knows exactly which male companion to call when she's in the mood for a complimentary meal at her favorite restaurant. This woman has a plethora of male acquaintances yet she strategically chooses one friend in particular whenever she wants to be wined and dined. Nine times out of ten, she realizes that 'Guy X' is so enthused about spending time with her that he'll practically jump through hoops to accommodate her requests. Yup, you've guessed it... she is a manipulator.

Let's not overlook the twenty something year old man who still relies on his Momma to wash his dirty laundry. He fully understands that once the pile accumulates to a certain level, his mother will get tired of looking at the tower of clothes. He knows full well that eventually Momduke will wash, dry, and fold his laundry, on his behalf. He too is a manipulator.

The fact of the matter remains that we usually know which individual(s) we are capable of manipulating. If you're an accomplished manipulator, shame on you. On the flip side, if you fall into the 'jump through hoops guy' or 'laundry lady' category... WAKE UP!!! You're being played like a fiddle. That's right, I'm hatin'. Be blessed.

Corey R.

26 Sept - WOD

Courteous - Having or showing good manners; polite.

Isn't it interesting that once we surpass the milestone of 30 years young, we somehow get automatically thrust into the category of 'Old School'? Funny thing is when I was in my early twenties; I thought I still had an eternity before I was considered an 'ole head'. Between you and me, I actually went thru a slight spell of mental anguish when I turned thirty. I felt like a tremendous underachiever because at that point, I still had not accomplished many of the goals I'd previously set for myself. Indeed thirty was a tough age to embrace.

Fast forward two years and the term "Old fashioned" doesn't strike me as half bad, nowadays. Think about it; most of us fall into the 25 and older category. Fortunately for us, several benefits happen to accompany that statistic. We were raised to appreciate real music (Luther, Anita, Gladys, and Patti). We were blessed to watch quality BLACK television programs (The Cosby Show, The Jeffersons, In Living Color, and Good Times). Most importantly though we understood the value of respect and courtesy as it applies to one another and especially our elders.

Rhetorical Question: Since the term 'old school' is the antonym for 'new jack' should we automatically accept the possibility that our children's values are destined to be the exact opposite of ours?

Courtesy begins at home!!! We can not expect teachers, counselors, or pastors to teach our children good manners. That is our God given responsibility as parents. The harsh reality is that you only have two choices today... 1) Teach your children the value of good manners and common courtesy or 2) Leave it to Bubba and/or Big Bertha (your child's future cell mate) to do it for you. Courtesy cost you nothing yet buys you so much. Be blessed.

Corey R.

25 Sept - WOD

Busy - Actively and attentively engaged in work or a pastime: busy with his work.

If any of you are as busy at work as I am today, you probably don't have time to read today's WOD. Luckily for y'all, I'm keeping this one short and sweet. Sometimes we get beside ourselves because we're so busy. For those of you who have ever heard me complain about my hectic work schedule, let me assure you I would much rather be a little busy than to have excess idle time on my hands. Most of the times when an individual is busy, he/she is actually being productive. So today, if you're super busy; keep busy and if you're not busy; well…get busy. But whatever you do…if you've got nosey colleagues, you damn sure better look busy. Be blessed.

Corey R.

22 Sept - WOD

Fair -

1) Free from bias, dishonesty, or injustice: a fair decision; a fair judge.
2) Legitimately sought, pursued, done, given, etc.; proper under the rules: a fair fight.

In an ideal world, everyone would be treated equally. How many times have you felt that life just isn't fair? Chances are, if you were born into this world as a member of a minority race or gender, you fully understand that the playing field is not level for 'your kind'. Now please don't get this misconstrued; I'm not whining or asking for handouts. I fully believe that as a people, we are capable of overcoming insurmountable odds. Genetically, it’s just the way we were constructed. However, in my opinion, it would be refreshing if there was one set of governing rules which applied to everyone. I think we can all agree that the rules which apply to Brett are not the same rules that apply to Hakim and Tariq.

I embrace the idea that someday minorities will be presented with the same choices, opportunities, and advantages as our majority counterparts. Only then (when these commodities are proportionately dispersed) will we truly be able to separate the lazy and shiftless individuals from those of us who strive to achieve in every field of human endeavor. Quite frankly, folk who lack motivation, drive, or desire... need to shut up about life not being fair, anyway. I mean c'mon y’all... fair is fair. Have a productive weekend. Be blessed.

Corey R.

21 Sept - WOD

Faithful -

1) True to one's word, promises, vows, etc.
2) Reliable, trusted, or believed.

"Faith is the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen." I'm sure some of you realized more than an hour ago that today's WOD had not yet been posted. While some of you may have been a little nervous, I'm sure the majority of you were confident that your WOD was forthcoming.

On hectic days like today, I revert back to the silent vow that I made to try to provide a daily mental vitamin for my loved ones. Trust me, some days that vow is the lone factor that motivates me to formulate my thoughts. For those of you who trust that I'll maintain that vow (to the best of my ability), I thank God for you all. Likewise, today I'd like to encourage each of you to work harder at keeping of your word. The world could certainly use a few more reliable folk. Be blessed.

Corey R.

20 Sept - WOD

Evolve - to come forth gradually into being; develop; undergo evolution: The whole idea evolved from a casual remark.

Life is geared to grow each of us through a series of events, experiences, and lessons. Some of life's teachings are bound to be painful while others are rather pleasant. The beauty of being enrolled in 'LIFE University' is that no matter what the circumstance that led to your lesson(s)... wisdom is always a byproduct. Smart folk use life's lessons to evolve into wiser, stronger, better prepared individuals. It would be a travesty to continue to repeat the same mistakes over and over in life. Every lesson whether negative or positive is intended to help us mature into better people.

Battered hearts and broken bones both heal in due time. In most cases, it is the lesson that we take from a previous encounter that assists us to steer clear of similarly dangerous territory. Far too often, we fail to take time to assess the personal growth that transpires between these little lessons. Perhaps we should spend less time reflecting on the harsh lessons of life and more time focusing on the growth that they afford us. I think we'd be surprised to find that we're constantly evolving into fine young men and women. Today, I'd like to remind you to be thankful for every lesson that life has afforded you. Even if currently you have not evolved into the person you would like to become, I can almost guarantee that you're not the person you used to be either. We can all contribute at least a small portion of our evolution to Life's lessons. Be blessed.

Corey R.

19 Sept - WOD

Service -

1) an act of helpful activity; help; aid: to do someone a service.
2) ready to be of help or use to someone; at one's disposal:

Today, I take my hat off in recognition and appreciation for my loved ones in the education, medical, and social services professions. Not everyone has the patience, dedication, or nurturing spirit that you possess. You work tirelessly to provide services which benefit your fellow man. You are indeed a commodity in today's self-centered society. It's nice to know there are still people who take the time to make a positive impact in the lives others. If nobody else tells you today, I appreciate you. Be blessed.

Corey R.

18 Sept - WOD

Black Man

So what if I am a black man? ...

Does that make me incapable of providing for my offspring?
Does that mean I'm predestined to have countless sexual encounters that amount to absolutely nothing?
Am I condemned to a prison sentence, an early death, or a nasty drug addiction?
And who says you can detect an unintelligent black man by his non-standard diction?
...trust me, that's all fiction

So what if I am a black man? ...

Should I be penalized for my uncanny ability to do more with far less?
Are you angry with my ancestors for empowering me with an iron will to never settle for second best?
So tell me then ...what is it about the black man that makes you so uneasy?
I'll run through a list of items; feel free at any time to cease me

Hmmm, let's see now; where should I begin?
Perhaps it's the variation of hue in our magnificent brown skin?
Ranging from Dark Chocolate to Caramel to Cinnamon to High Yellow and all shades in between
Perfectly smooth Nubian skin; its like nothing you've ever seen

A strong backed, full lipped, sharp minded, broad shouldered, bald headed brotha
Faster, more powerful, more athletic, and quite the insatiable lover

So what if I am a black man? ...

Do I have to stand on the corner and sling rocks with my baggy jeans hangin' low?
If that's truly the case then you probably also expect me to father a child by every female I know.
Heck no!!!

So what if I'm a black man who chooses to use his mind
...who has decided to advance past all the stereotypes once thought to leave him behind?
What if I'm a black man who desires to do a whole lot better
... who desires a nuclear family that sits down each night and eats dinner together?

So what if I'm the black man who was intended to beat the odds
...who went on to do great things because despite his situation he always knew he was a child of God?

So what if I am what they call me?
Does that make me who they say that I am? {not a chance}
Sistah... respect and adore me; my love for you is unwavering

... Say hello to YOUR new and improved BLACK MAN


Corey R.

15 Sept - WOD

Stress - physical, mental, or emotional strain or tension: Worry over his job and his wife's health put him under a great stress.

Are you very easily stressed? Perhaps you have a lower than normal stress threshold. We all know at least one person who stresses over even the slightest of issues. We have to be mindful who we share our trials and tribulations with because some folk internalize our problems and ultimately they stress our situation more than we do. On the flip side, there are those of us who allow the problems of others to spill over into our laps. Life is stressful enough to begin with. We don't have the bandwidth to inherit stress from all of our loved ones. Stress can cause health issues, anxiety, restlessness, nausea, or death. Once put into proper perspective, we find that we usually stress over things that are not worthy of our energy in the first place.

Most likely... overdue bills, insufficient finances, dysfunctional relationships, and health concerns are the catalysts for the majority of our stress. Well guess what…arrangements with a bill collector can be made in advance with a simple telephone call. Finances can be supplemented by picking up some over-time hours or maybe even a part-time job in your spare time. Dysfunctional relationships can be resolved through counseling. If counseling doesn’t help, then there’s always permanent separation. Health concerns can be addressed through healthier eating, a proper exercise regimen, and frequent visits to see a physician. Everything else, for the most part is small stuff. You don't need me to tell you not to sweat the small stuff. You already know that, right? Today, I stress to you, take a chill pill. Have a wonderful weekend. Be Blessed.

Corey R.

14 Sept - WOD

Invisible Tears

Was raised fatherless but I grew up with five uncles though
‘Lil C dry your eyes; you're acting like a real punk yo'
See from an early age, I was encouraged to fight back my tears
How come nobody ever mentioned it would grow worse throughout the years?

Shredded relationships are the result of emotions run off track
But my name ain’t Ralph Tresvant so to me sensitivity was straight up wack
Damaged goods now cuz for so long I've been emotionally disconnected
Praying to God on a regular basis that He’ll give me the strength to correct it.

Men aren't supposed to cry it's a sign of weakness, or at least that's what I was told
Ashamed that I can count on one hand the times I've cried since I was like 16 years old
Now that's half my life and time is one thing that we can never recreate
Feeling relieved though at the fact that through my son, I can finaly set the record straight.

I'll tell him 'Son, its perfectly okay to display your true feelings'
'Even if that means from time to time you need to cry to get through your dealings'
'Shedding tears doesn't make a man soft, weak, or gay'
Yup, when it's time to have "the talk", those are the words he'll hear Daddy say.

As for me, I'm scared to death of the day when I can no longer hold back my cry
Worried that my tears will run for days or at least until my soul is completely dry
That's 16 years worth of backed up tears; so I’m a little overdue
Don't sleep! Chances are there's a man in your life who could stand a good cry too.

Corey R.

13 Sept - WOD

Excuses - explanations offered as reasons for being excused; pleas offered in extenuation of faults or for release from an obligation, promise, etc.: His excuse for being late was unacceptable.

This is just my personal opinion but I believe that every human being should undergo some form of mental disciplinary training in their adolescent years. Whether that training come in the form of a military like basic training or in the form of pledging a sorority or fraternity in college; I firmly believe that the experience will prove beneficial. The mental challenges often associated with these strict training regimens have proven invaluable in the lives of many. My pledge process in college taught me that I was capable of accomplishing far more than I ever gave myself credit for. It also taught me that "excuses are tools of incompetence used to build monuments of nothingness and those who use them usually amount to nothing at all".

Some of us have gotten so good at making excuses that we've literally created personal crutches for ourselves. Have you ever thought about the amount of energy required to conjure up an excuse? First, we conceive an idea. Then, we visualize how to master a certain goal, task, or challenge. Next, we consider all the possibilities that exist for failure. Eventually, we manage to convince ourselves that we will never be able to actually accomplish the feat. Finally, we invoke an excuse to bail us out and prevent us the trouble of ever trying in the first place. That's why it's often so easy to sell others on our excuses. We've already expended so much effort convincing ourselves that it's a cinch to get our friends to buy into our excuses. Here is a small piece of advice for you... "nothing beats a failure but a try". Ease up on all the excuses. The biggest difference between those who succeed in life and those who don't is usually the fact that successful folk don't buy into excuses. Class is dismissed; you're excused. Be blessed.

Corey R.

12 Sept - WOD

Appetite - a desire to satisfy a particular need or craving.

Are you being properly fed? Every individual is unique. However, one thing we all share in common is the fact that we each possess a craving of some sort. Some very common cravings include $ex, drugs, alcohol, food, and of course the "all mighty dollar". The appetite is capable of sending us through all sorts of extremes on a quest to fulfill our cravings. A certain level of discipline must exist in order to curb our appetites and ensure that they do not become detrimental.

One personal craving of mine that has been left unfulfilled lately is my spiritual appetite. I’m sure this doesn't apply to any of you but… would you believe there are actually some folk out there who attend church on a regular basis yet they walk away each week lacking any form of true spiritual growth? How much longer will we sit in the sanctuary simply enjoying the 'show' before we realize that we are not being properly fed? I don't know about you but I learned as a youngster that no matter how much kool-aid I drank, it just didn't seem to fulfill my hunger. We need to stop eating in vain. Today, I suggest that you be mindful of nourishing your spiritual appetite. The whole purpose of eating is to nourish and fulfill. Let's stop eating simply to exercise our jaw bones. If that statement just went over your head, call me. Chances are we probably need to discuss a few things anyway. :-) Be blessed.

Corey R.

11 Sept - WOD

Upgrade - to improve or enhance the quality or value of

Have you ever noticed how professional sports organizations that under-achieve usually find their head coach enthralled in the ugly throes of harsh criticism? I've always thought it was ironic that the head coach should be held accountable for the successes or failures of his team. Think about it: a team's athletes are drafted not by the head coach but by the president of operations. The sport is played not by the head coach but by the athletes, right? Why then is the head coach held liable for the team’s productivity? I'll tell you why.

The role of the head coach is to take a given talent pool and customize a specific style of play that will provide his team with the best probability for success. Being a head coach requires the ability to recognize and (in most cases) enable players to reach their full potential. Unfortunately, a head coach also has to understand when it is appropriate to make some personnel changes. A head coach needs to ensure that a mutual respect and camaraderie exists between his players in order for his team to enjoy championship success. The head coach knows all too well that a few bad apples really can spoil the whole bunch.

Some of us have players (family members/friends) on our team who need to be traded. No offense; we love them dearly but they don't afford us the best opportunity to maximize our potential. That doesn't necessarily make them bad players per se; nor does it qualify us as unfit head coaches. Sometimes it just means that our team chemistry is all wrong. Perhaps it's time we explored the free agency market and made a blockbuster upgrade. It makes no sense to retain an under-achieving player(s) who could potentially be a star contributor on a different team. Today, I encourage you to stock your team (support system) with talent rich players who share your vision for success. Cohesion is the key. Upgrade your team to ensure that it remains in championship form. Be blessed.

Corey R.

8 Sept - WOD

Impact - to have an influence or effect on; to make an impression; alter

Special folk possess an uncanny ability to positively impact the lives of others. The true beauty of positive influence lies in the fact that you need not possess Oprah Winfrey's or Bob Johnson’s money in order to make a significant impression on someone. Each of us has been bestowed with a gift which allows us to make subtle imprints on the hearts of the people we interact with. Interestingly enough, the biggest impressions usually occur during the moments when we don't even realize that anyone is paying attention. Impact comes in a variety of shapes and sizes. Oftentimes, it takes little more than a listening ear, an encouraging word, or a kind gesture to make a lasting impression. You would be surprised to learn that even your smallest actions could prove to be monumental in the eyes of someone else. Never underestimate or take for granted your ability to make a positive impact. Enjoy your weekend. Be blessed.

Corey R.

7 Sept - WOD

Happy -

1) Characterized by or indicative of pleasure, contentment, or joy: a happy mood; a happy frame of mind.
2) Favored by fortune; fortunate or lucky: a happy, fruitful land.

As I mulled over the generic definitions of today's word, it quickly became apparent that it would be virtually impossible to paint the entire world with the same 'happy' paint brush. Have you ever turned on the news and heard the tragic story of some high profile personality who had taken his/her own life? Isn't it ironic that they possessed fame, fortune, celebrity, and a lifestyle that most would envy yet they still lacked something major, in the happiness department? If the generic definition of happy was applicable to everyone, then these actions would appear somewhat insane, right? Perhaps there is actually more to happiness than success, accomplishment, and wealth; after all.

Happiness is customizable by each individual. My definition of the word happy will clearly differ from yours. Some individuals struggle with happiness simply because they have yet to contrive their own interpretation of the word. The biggest misconception that people have is that others can provide them with happiness. Newsflash: No one else is capable of making you happy! You need to clearly identify what it is that makes you happy and then it is your sole responsibility to pursue it. When you are capable of being happy with yourself; nobody else will be able to give or steal your joy. Today, take time to compose a list of things that make you happy. Use that list to set short-term realistic goals for yourself that will allow you to spend more time doing the things you’ve documented. Be mindful to observe how happy you feel each time you scratch another goal off your list. Be blessed and while you're at it, be Happy.

Corey R.

6 Sept - WOD

Tranquil - free from or unaffected by disturbing emotions; unagitated; serene; placid: a tranquil life.

On Sunday evening, I sat quietly on a wooden boat dock and gazed out into the horizon. Straight ahead, for as far as the human eye could perceive, silver clouds fought to contain subtle rays of sunlight which still occasionally managed to peak through. Every so often, from the distant background, I could hear the subdued roar of thunder crying out for attention.

As I sat in silent observance of this wonderment we call Mother Nature, I could hear the continuous streaming songs of a nearby running brook. Lake Pleasant seemed virtually undisturbed except for the sporadic movements of a small school of mackerel which inhabited the body of water and tiny specs of drizzle that danced atop the lake's tranquil surface.

At some point during my 74 minute respite, it occurred to me that tranquility costs me nothing yet affords me so much. It's true what they say, you know? Some of the best things in life are free. Today, I encourage you to take time to occasionally tranquilize your lifestyle. You can thank me for the advice later. Be blessed.

Corey R.

1 Sept - WOD

Threshold - The point that must be exceeded to begin producing a given effect or result or to elicit a response.

Let's be real... some of us associate with folk who seemingly know exactly the precise combination of buttons to push in order to send our attitudes souring through the roof. Under normal circumstances we project as mild mannered and easy going individuals. Somehow these jerks are capable of provoking our fury. Why do we tolerate folk like this in our personal space? What's love got to do with it? If you have someone in your life who transforms you from Dr. Jekyll into Mr/Ms Hyde, you need to love yourself enough to remove them from your space, immediately. Worthwhile companions provoke positive changes within you; they don't bring out your worst. Do yourself a favor and cut that zero. Life is challenging enough; who has time for additional hindrances? Have a great weekend. Be blessed.

Corey R.

31 Aug - WOD

Convenient - suitable or agreeable to the needs or purpose; well-suited with respect to facility or ease in use; favorable, easy, or comfortable for use.

Do you have acquaintances that make you feel as if they only fraternize with you when it is convenient for them? If you are unable to discern, now is as good a time as any to check for warning signs. Do you have a friend who you only hear from when he is in need of a favor? Perhaps you have a relative who only comes around when her money is funny because she knows you'll provide for her. Authentic relationships are reciprocal in nature. If within a given friendship you notice that you are rarely the recipient of generosity, then clearly you need to revisit the definition of friendship. Indications are that you're being manipulated. One very popular proverb states "to whom much is given, much is required." Today, I beckon you to require just as much effort from your loved ones as you expend. The situation doesn’t necessarily need to be “tit for tat”, but these free-loading loved ones must be held accountable within the relationship as well. That’s right, I said it! Stand firmly for something or fall for anything. Be blessed.

Corey R.

30 Aug - WOD

Lose - to fail inadvertently to retain (something) in such a way that it cannot be immediately recovered:

Have you ever had to come to terms with the fact that you'd lost something very valuable? Whether that object was a family heirloom, an estate, or a lover... I’m willing to bet that it was very difficult to absorb the loss. The irony about loss is that it can often be attributed to carelessness on the victim’s behalf. The question then arises... how is it that one can afford to be careless with his/her valuables? Please allow me to summarize the answer with one word; COMPLACENCY. A wise man is one who learns to cherish and appreciate his valuables without first having to part ways with them. Today, I strongly suggest that you treat your valuables as such. Rumor has it...you will surely miss your water, once your well runs dry. Be blessed.

Corey R.

29 Aug - WOD

Communicate - to express thoughts, feelings, or information easily or effectively.

The preferential method of communication utilized by man is verbal communication. Most of us convey our ideas and opinions by way of conversation. There is a thin line however between effective and reckless verbal communication. For example, if your conversations often escalate into shouting matches, chances are... you're not getting your point across to the recipient of your tirades. Or if you have a habit of cursing uncontrollably, throwing tantrums, and talking down to people... rest assured your comments are not well received.

Effective communication exists only when two individuals agree to respectfully discuss a given topic. Only one person can effectively communicate at a time. If you are too impatient to hear your counterpart's soliloquy till the end, face it... you are not an effective communicator. Effective verbal communication requires a mutual respect for the opinions, thoughts, and ideas of the two parties involved in a given discussion. Regardless of whether the discussion turns heated or not... if there is a genuine level of mutual respect, each individual should be allowed an opportunity to speak, free of outbursts and interruptions.

Some people truly believe that their mood should determine the tone of a discussion. In other words, they reserve the right to talk to others like crap simply because they're upset and they disagree with the other person's outlook. That is ludicrous! A Muslim and a Jew could very well have a respectful conversation about religion. Despite their obvious conflicting views, if the two individuals agree to listen respectfully to the issues presented by one another, they each stand a pretty good chance of learning something new about the other individual's ideology. It's perfectly acceptable to walk away from a discussion agreeing to disagree. Effective communication does not guarantee that the two parties will see eye to eye. Effective communication does guarantee that both parties will be given the opportunity to convey an otherwise unknown vantage point to his/her audience.

If you are not a very effective verbal communicator, perhaps it might be a good idea for you start writing down your ideas before presenting them. This method may provide you with an opportunity to organize your thoughts to ensure that they are better received by your intended audience. Today, I recommend that you choose the thoughts you convey more carefully. You are so much smarter than your conversations indicate. Don't lead folk to believe that your vocabulary is limited strictly to four letter words. Be blessed.

Corey R.

28 Aug - WOD

Blinder - Something that serves to obscure clear perception and discernment.

Have you ever paid attention to the manner in which Venetian blinds curtail blaring sunlight? Interestingly enough, those same blinds also manage to conceal the secret occurrences (inside of a given room) from the outside world. Blinds are multi-faceted. They hinder us from seeing the world clearly while simultaneously allowing the world less exposure to our exclusive endeavors.

Some of us have personal blinders. Have you ever allowed your emotional attachment to an individual to hinder you from seeing that person as he/she truly is? Chances are you've made excuses for the behaviors of a friend or relative because you loved them. It's a natural reflex to tend to divert the negative characteristics of a loved one in exchange for a more optimistic perspective. Some of us decorate our lives with mini-blinds. Although mini blinds provide their fair share of shielding, they still manage to provide us access to enough light that we are able to ultimately identify a person for whom they truly are. Those of us with mini blind situations are usually able to eventually see our way clear to pull a loved ones card.

There are some of us, however, who decorate the windows of our lives with far heavier artillery. I refer to these people as Vertical blind individuals. They are incapable of seeing any sunlight and therefore remain captive to facades and deceptions created by a loved one, far too long. Very little truth is able to shine through vertical blinds and as a result these individuals usually become enablers for the behavior(s) that their loved one exhibits. If you're reading this passage... OPEN YOUR BLINDS!!! It's time we started labeling our loved ones accordingly. If you notice that a close friend is displaying detrimental behavior… instead of closing your blinds, open them wide and allow some sunlight to shine on your friend's dark situation. Today, I suggest that you stop enabling the counter-productive behavior of your loved ones. Retract your blinds and let the light of Truth shine through. Be blessed.

Corey R.

25 Aug - WOD

Valuable - having qualities worthy of respect, admiration, or esteem: a valuable friend.

Good morning brothers and sisters. Do you know what it means to value another individual? Some of us are valued by our friends. Likewise, some of us have friends who are valuable to us. We value their opinion, perception, advice, and insight. On the flip side, some of us are affiliated with individuals who (due to some underlying set of circumstances) are unable to fully comprehend our worth. Have you ever brought a concern to the attention of a friend only to be rebuked? Have you ever heard these words: "I don't appreciate having you question my actions; I'm grown"? If you have heard similar words retorted from the mouth of a friend, you need to understand that there is a definite problem. You see... when an individual truly values your friendship, they don't react overly defensive when required to address your concerns. In fact, true friends usually feel obliged to relieve any worries or uncertainties that may plague other friends. If a person you consider to be a friend shuns your concerns, you need to be clear that they are essentially showing you that your uneasiness is of no concern to them. Whether the individual feels that your concerns are warranted or not, a genuine friend should take the time to ensure that you reach a certain level of comfort with the addressed issue(s). If the people you value most don't seem to reciprocate that notion, ‘CHECK EM’. Today, I challenge you to realize your own self-worth. Raise the bar to require your friends to treat you like the valuable asset that you are. Have a wonderful weekend. Be blessed.

Corey R.

24 Aug - WOD

Patience - an ability or willingness to suppress restlessness or annoyance when confronted with delay: to have patience with a slow learner.

Lack of patience has plagued many of us on innumerous occasions yet we still struggle to readily exhibit the characteristic. Are you familiar with the proverb that says "good things come to those who wait"? Chances are you've heard that one before. You may also be familiar with the popular saying "patience is a virtue". Unfortunately, it's a virtue that far too many of us have never embraced. Have you ever stopped to ask yourself what is the big rush? Most of the time, we are in such a hurry to get absolutely nowhere. Some of us speed excessively toward a future that we hope will include marriage, financial stability, success, etc.

Instead of pacing ourselves so that we're in the best possible position to receive our eventual blessings, we often try to dictate the rate at which our goals materialize. The truth of the matter is any goal attained before its due time will not benefit us anyway. Most impulsive people find themselves caught in a rat race constantly trying to get to the next plateau of their life. Before long, they're burnt out and usually find that they've made insignificant strides towards their ultimate goal. I dare ask… what’s the point of taking a crowded escalator from one landing to the next if eventually the express elevator predestined for your terminal will arrive? We usually end up doing double the work and exerting triple the effort when we try to impose our own will upon our destiny. Today, I encourage you to employ faith whenever your patience runs thin. What is meant to be will be. Be blessed.

Corey R.

23 Aug -WOD

Counterfeit -

1) To carry on a deception; dissemble.
2) To make fraudulent copies of something valuable.

Is it just me or do phony individuals turn your stomach too? I have an extremely difficult time tolerating fraudulent folk, mainly because I was raised to value authenticity. I am a firm believer in the concept that quality outweighs quantity. Let's take for instance, the quality of a friendship. I would much rather have one bona fide ally who will get down in the trenches and go to war with me than an entourage of pretenders who will flee at the first indication of adversity.

Phonies come in a variety of shapes and sizes. She might come in the form of a beautiful woman who you genuinely like yet she only interacts with you because she never has to spend a dime when the two of you hang out. He might also come in the fashion of a politician who strategically journeys down to the hood once every election year to secure the vote of the commoners. These types of phonies are pretty easy to spot but what about the bootleg homies who you've known for years?

Ever notice how some of your so called ‘friends’ always seem to show up whenever the drinks are flowing, the money is plentiful, and beautiful women are in abundance? How many of those same dudes were there when you needed help moving out of your apartment? A phony will agree with whatever you say because there are no benefits associated with disagreement. A true friend will not hesitate to let you know when your outlook on a particular issue is flat out wrong. A phony will tell you there are plenty other fishes in the sea. A true friend will help you piece your broken heart back together and then invite you to a singles bar. Phonies usually flock to you when you're at your best. A true friend has stood shoulder to shoulder with you while you were at your worst. Today, I advise you to embrace a circle of authenticity. Remove phony people from your personal space to allow room for an additional genuine friend. Be blessed.

Corey R.

22 Aug - WOD

Contradict -

1) To assert or express the opposite of (a statement).
2) To be contrary to; be inconsistent with.

Are you the type of individual who continually speaks of establishing a significant nest egg savings fund despite the fact that you have an uncontrollable shopping addiction? Do you have plans of being in a monogamous marriage even though you've never practiced fidelity in any of your former relationships? Do you have aspirations of owning that big, beautiful house with the white picket fence albeit your current credit score won't even allow you to get a tent in your name? Some of us have goals that are contrary to our current circumstances?

The good news is that circumstances are always subject to change. Just because you find yourself in what appears to be a dismal situation today, does not imply that your conditions are permanent. However, it is unrealistic to think that you can continue to exhibit the poor habits, patterns, and trends that have landed you in your current adverse situation and still somehow watch all your dreams manifest. Please believe me when I tell you that is not going to happen. There is absolutely nothing wrong with dreaming or having aspirations. In fact, I believe that both concepts are healthy. In order to reach your target though, eventually your actions will need to align with your goals.

Today, I encourage you to let your actions be more consistent with your aspirations. You're going to need more powerful ammunition in order to shoot for the moon. Be blessed.

Corey R.

21 Aug - WOD

Cherish - To treat with affection and tenderness; hold dear: cherish one's family

Family is the cornerstone of society... or at least it ought to be. Our hectic schedules sometimes prevent us from interacting with certain loved ones as frequently as we'd like. We continually promise ourselves that we'll find time to pay a visit to a favorite aunt, a distant cousin, a distressed sibling, or a sickly grandparent. Somehow it never fails; weeks seem to slip away and we still haven't found the time to fellowship with our relatives. Perhaps that is because our approach is all wrong. Time is very elusive. If we continue to try to 'find time', we might never get around to doing the very things we set out to accomplish. Today, instead of finding time, why not 'take time' to pay a loved one an overdue visit. A gentleman whose opinion I respect deeply once told me something that makes perfect sense. He said that he wants his loved ones to celebrate his life while he's still here to celebrate with us as opposed to waiting until he’s no longer amongst us. Far too often, we find ourselves attending the funeral of a loved one, bearing fond memories of days long gone. Let's make time, even today, to create more fond memories while we still have our loved ones here to cherish. Be blessed.

Corey R.

18 Aug - WOD

Representative - one that exemplifies another or others in a special capacity:

Are you sick and tired of being hoodwinked, bamboozled, and led astray by impersonators? Allow me to clarify: Ladies, remember ole' boy from the lounge, he was quite the gentleman upon introduction, right? He seemed to have his 'stuff' together. This guy had all 3 A's down pat... he was attentive, attractive, and articulate. Not to mention he drives a fancy car. It’s too bad he failed to mention his 4 kids or the fact that he's 34 years old and still lives with his parents.

Hold on fellas... What about the stunning sister you met in Starbucks, during your lunch hour. In your brief discussion, you were able to ascertain that she was working on her PhD., was the owner of a successful small business, and she had no kids. Funny how she never mentioned her three former marriages until after you started dating. I'll bet you never imagined a woman that fine could turn out to be a stalker either, did you? Now she just patrols your neighborhood looking to vandalize any foreign vehicle parked outside your door. That's what happens when we fall for the representative and not the real individual.

In all honesty, we all have representatives. We send our representatives on job interviews all the time. Think about it... we show up on time, decked out, hair done, with a very pleasant demeanor. Two weeks after we get hired, we start showing up to work late, clothes are wrinkled, we take two hour lunch breaks to run personal errands, and our workplace demeanor is far from cordial. This isn’t the same person your manager hired. That was your representative.

Many of us send our representative to church too. We strut in the building looking and smelling like a million bucks yet we can't even sew an offering this week because we only have $16 in the bank till payday. Tell the truth and shame the Devil.

I wouldn’t dare mention the way some of us get fancied up to go out to the club. We look real good too ... meanwhile, one friend is paying our way in the club and another is buying our drinks. Nobody would ever know your pockets were empty by looking at your representative but the real you knows the truth. Get a grip people!!!

Today, why not begin living in such a manner that the "real you" is always an accurate representation of your absolute level best? Happy Friday. Be blessed.

Corey R.